I'm 19 and it seems like i got the worst luck in the world with girls. I'm shy and have anxiety and can't get the confidence to talk to them. It makes me depressed that when I see pretty girls I get a nervous breakdown knowing that I would not get with them. I don't know how to gain confidence its not like it comes overnite. I also get the feeling that why would a pretty girl even SUFFER talking to me who's ugly, short, stupid, and shy when the tall, buff, handsome, cocky guys can sweep them off their feet? Let's admit women crave that **** like cake and me I'm like diarrea to them. I workout but I dont gain the confidence from it. Also if a girl looks like she doesn't take care of herself for her appearance and almost look like a human trash can but her personality is SO amazing and pure golden do I have to be with her? Since you all say personality is more important than looks. Also am i doomed with women forever since I suck?
Most Helpful Girl
It could be a number of things but it's usually because the guy is trying too hard. When you try too hard, you're more likely to come off as trying to force a connection or more prone to make things feel awkward and uncomfortable for one or both of you. It also feels more discouraging when your efforts aren't reciprocated, for whatever reason and sometimes women reject men due to something that's going on inside of them. Not because there's something wrong with the guy or there's something that he's missing but because their heart is elsewhere or their heart is not ready for use.
The best way to attract the opposite sex is to enjoy life with confidence, happiness, good vibes and let that energy ooze from everything you do. Don't focus on how you can attract someone, focus on just being present in the moment, having a good time, showing others a good time, making people laugh, always be kind, always have good manners and show respect. The rest will fall into place. You really have to work on your confidence first though otherwise it will always be a roadblock.0
Most Helpful Guy
I'm shy and have anxiety + self pity, low self esteem.
there's our answer why.
Stop putting women on pedestals much hotter women have been with much less appealing men. 300 pound fucking guys can ask out very attractive women. Just keep working out and practice talking to any girl.0