I met my (ex) boyfriend 2 months and a half ago and we were in a relationship for 2 months. Few hours ago we broke up. He said this relationship isn't going because he wants to have sex but I don't. I'm 19 years old and he is 22. I understand he has some needs but if he really loved me he could wait until marriage, am I wrong? He knew that I don't want to be intimate before marriage (religion thing and I also don't want) but he kept saying that sex is too important for him and because I don't want he decided to broke up. Do you think he wasn't really inlove with me and just got into relationship just for the sex?
Most Helpful Guy
When a young man is physically attracted to a woman, and they're constantly close together, he'll want to have sex so badly with her that it can drive him to utter insanity. If he's actually in love with a woman, he could be fantasizing about making love to her all day and night.
A lot of women seem to get hung of on the idea of "only".
"He likes my boobs. Therefore he only likes me for my boobs." (He's just being a guy).
"He wants to have sex with me. Therefore he only wants to have sex with me." (He's just being a guy).
We live in a sexualized society and sex is one of the few mutual activities lovers can enjoy exclusively that they cannot with their close friends, for example.
So I don't think it's reasonable to assume this guy never loved you. And he's quite admirable in that he gave such a straightforward reason to break up.
>> I understand he has some needs but if he really loved me he could wait until marriage, am I wrong?
Not all guys are like this, but I never fall in love with a girl until I have sex, and it's not even a guarantee that I will at that point (it may or may not happen depending on how much a bond we have in such an intimate context).
So I personally could never have been in love with a woman I never had sex with, and would never wait until marriage for a woman I wasn't in love with.1
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Most Helpful Girl
His being honest and it's a valid reason. It's better him telling you straight to your face instead of going behind your back and screwing some random girl. It's important for some guys to feel that intimacy and closeness between a girl they care about. You not wanting to be intimate was probably the issue. Guys love intimacy.2