Most Helpful Guy
I am in a relationship like that , and I am extremely emotionally expressive and it has caused huge issues , the distance in the same room thing. If you love this person and it's not just a short term thing, it can be worth the effort.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but you must have an awareness of your own needs , you must be willing to walk away from the relationship if it comes to the point that it is negatively impacting your life, and you must feel confident in expressing your needs and that there is someone out there that would be more than happy to help you meet them.
In getting an emotionally unavailable partner to open up you have to distance the distancer, stop chasing them. To them when you chase it feels like pressure and they automatically shut down under pressure. So you have to back off in order for them to come closer. You have to create an environment of security for them to express their emotions and you can't get mad no matter what or they'll shut down again. It's a pain in the ass , but worth it if you can get them to confide. If you are angry about the content of the information , find a sounding board where you can let your frustration out in private. These people often make people with "needy" personality types more needy and then you're stuck in a vicious cycle of neediness and distance. And the sad thing is usually these two people are attracted to each other and it often becomes toxic. So tread carefully and remember to work on yourself first , if it gets to the point where you are no longer secure in your love or it is impacting your work , your home, your leisure activities, walk away , and it may be hard especially if you are emotionally expressive and get attached easily , but your happiness is what you're after isn't it?0
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Most Helpful Girl
yes. because you are constantly searching for affirmation from someone you care for and if you're not getting that, then yeah you're going to ask needy questions like What do you want? do you like me or do you jus want to hook up? and shit like that. Im kind of going through a similar situation actually. I feel like im constantly walking on egg shells because i dont want to sound too needy. lol it sucks.1
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