As I've mentioned in previous posts, I'm 26 and I've never been in a relationship. At the end of the day, I'm not terribly bothered by this (especially since this was a conscious decision). On the outside, I come across as being very kind, sweet and thoughtful. I also try to be rather charming, funny and playful. What I keep hidden, however, is a whole host of issues and problems. For starters, I'm very prone to anxiety and neurotic thoughts, as well as being (in all likelihood) a highly sensitive person (HSP). Even fairly trivial things cause my psychological well-being to implode rather quickly. Tbh, I'm not sure that there's much that can be done about this (well, the anxiety is actually rather treatable and has gotten much better over the years). Who knows why I'm like this, it's probably genetic if I could guess. Anyways, my rambling aside, every now and then, I come across a girl who seems very cool and whatnot. Of course, the obvious next step is to get to know her better. However, I always instead find a way to (as politely as possible) blow her off. I figure that I'm doing her a favor by protecting her (from dealing with me and my problems). I've never been terribly concerned with my happiness or well-being. But at the end of the day, I try to be a good guy and not drag everyone else down if that makes any sense. By the way, I'm not saying this to have a "woe is me attitude", I'm dead serious about wanting to protect others (from me). Also, don't get me wrong, I don't walk around being negative all the time (I hide it instead). So yeah, what do you think? Is it so wrong to want girls to date someone else (someone who could actually make them happy)?
Most Helpful Girl
that is an incredibly selfless approach, and while i do admire u for it, i believe the best things in life are risky. a woman dating someone else instead of u is a good deed when u KNOW in your heart that you are essentially, 'a bad man' for her. if you aren't though, understand that there is plenty of good in you, and avoiding women because u aren't confident in yourself isn't a good sign.
my advice. dont even think of women at all at this point. loving yourself is more important here. it's the foundation upon which you can build up your love for others. when you love yourself, it becomes easier to love others, being sure that they love you back without doubting them.0
Most Helpful Guy
Nothing wrong with it at all from my point of view. You save them the trouble of becoming unhappy once they realize the real you really is not a happy person with unresolved issues to begin with.
Just decide what you really want to do with your life and do the best you can to deal with your own personal issues as no one else can exactly "fix" you for who you are or for how you are. Relationships more often than not, and especially when it comes to the very first relationship, does not last for a very long time or forever and usually the first relationship will not result result in a marriage anyway.0
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