my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months and I find it strange he sell hasn't said I love you or I'm in love with you nothing like that at all. Should I bring it up to him or what do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
You could tell him "I love you" gently and see how he reacts. Many guys probably won't be the first to say it unless they're very romantic (maybe somewhat naive) types.
It's because they're usually the ones pursuing the girl and "I love you" without knowing for sure the feeling is mutual can really backfire big time and repel the girl away.
Plus it's a bit awkward for guys to say this in general. I prefer "I love your boobs, I love your ass", that kind of thing.1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't push him or ask him anything. It's clear he is already in love with you, but does he LOVE you. In love and love are two very different things. In love refers to lust, infatuation, crushes, etc. In other words a feeling. Love is something that you do. An action. He hugs you, cuddles you, kisses you and make you feel loved in general. However when it comes to actually giving his heart to you is a different story. Men don't want to just give his heart out to just anyone. Because she may end up hurting him, breaking his heart, and if he became sexually active with you and the relationship fails, it will crush him to the point he is NEVER going to do that with another girl again. Until he is absolutely sure she isn't like you, his other ex's if any, and she proven herself trustworthy of that. But if you two already started having sex and he never said anything: That's bad. That means he was in it for the sex and that's it. And if you don't show him a reason why he should say those precious three words, forget it.1