My boyfriend of 5 months is upset about this. Apparently he found an old message about the other guy (Mark) inviting me out on a date and we making out.
That was the last time Mark and I contacted each other. That was the day before I started dating my boyfriend. I was still not his girlfriend at that moment. But he still feels cheated on because he didn't know I was testing my options.
No, you weren't his girlfriend at that moment so it's not cheating
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Yes, though you weren't dating at that moment, it's still cheating
Depends on whether you fucked the other guy or gave him sexual favors. If you did so with that guy, but not with your current boyfriend BEFORE you became official... it's slutty but not cheating. If you were hooking up with those two guys at once, official or not, I would consider that cheating. That's not okay
It's not cheating but I would have serious doubts about dating you if you are making out and going out on dates just before we became official. While technically not officially going out I would think we are in good standing with each other that would wouldn't be talking to other people if we are that far along in the courting process. Not cheating, but kinda wrong what you did.
It doesn't really matter. He just feels upset you were considering other people, try to make him feel better
It's not cheating, at least to me, BUT I think that's why it's so important to set the boundaries of the "relationship" even before it's official... this includes the "exclusivity" talk... you guys should have talked about whether, while you were just seeing each other, you two would be exclusive or if you two were free to see other people before anything became official.