There is a difference between courting and dating. Dating can be initiated by both male or female. Courting has always been started by the men in prospective of finding a marriage partner, and both parties must be in agreement to do so. Taking men out on dates sounds very silly here in America. And I'm pretty sure no woman would feel comfortable in doing that. Perhaps in other countries like China, Japan or something like that would. But even so, a man has to want to take a woman on as a wife, and see if she is suitable to be both his spouse and future mother to start a family with. Plus doing that in my opinion is dumbing down men in general like they don't know how to date or choose a wife. And that is not all the time true, and this doesn't apply to every man. Though I would think that this is unique, just a bit untraditional. But that may not be the reality and in truth. This is going to be a disaster because a lot of women are not wise enough to make appropriate choices in men these days. Very few do and actually succeed. But those are the ones who take courting seriously and not fooling around. That means abiding by courting rules as well until the wedding day if it works out.
I don't think it would change much in terms of more people being "lucky" in love. But I do think more women should feel comfortable doing the pursuing. And I think when you are in a relationship with someone, the gifts and sweet stuff should be a two way street.
No. Changing roles won't fix anything. Situations vary by person. If a guy want's to take the lead then that's fine. If a girl wants to take the lead then that's fine. Personally I like guys who take the lead.
The problem with that is your average man won't be approached and men dont realize that. Many women approach or take men on dates. Its not going to help the relationship at all though. Relationships end because of lack of communication, of boredom or one looses attraction.
The courting process is not a game. People express courtship different ways. It's not about gaming the system, it's about being a genuine person to another person. Shifting responsibility is not the goal here.
Trust me, men don't generally react well to being courted. They don't know what to do if they don't have their clear gender roles laid out, it's like they think a woman being romantic means they have to bend over and let us fuck them.
Men would find a way to take control of the process and leave the girl without an option but to wait on them.
I wouldn't say yes or no. I've been asked out, and have asked guys out. Guys complain that girls don't ask them out, but when I do they said it comes off as desperate. I'm not, I can get a date if I wanted. I just liked the guy and took the first step in stating I want to hang out with him. I also pay my own way on dates, because I'm more comfortable with that.
Ugh I'm all for taking turns and make a move but it feels unnatural for a woman to take a man out on a date it's like wtf.
Some of the best times I've had with a girl came from her basically choosing me. When I was only acting minimally stupid. I like forward confident girls. A lot. They're my favorite. Even if it isn't immediate and she first had to decide she actually likes me.