Me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months (red flag = we started dating 2 weeks after she ended a 3 year relationship) she moved in with me to.
she he always tells me I'm her soul mate, how much better I am, how much she loves me etc.
So so one day I was on my laptop but her Fb account was still on I seen where she was messaging her ex best friend telling him "can you get him to contact me" it was her begging. I notice everytime her ex was with his friend out somewhere she'll comment on his boyfriend picture (like trying to get his attention).
later I ask if her and her ex was talking she denied, but showed me her phone and she didn't dekete the messages where she was telling him "happy birthday, how proud she was of him". So two days later I snoop on her ex page he was in a relationship, that same day she had sent him an ugly text about "how she cheated on him twice yada yada" in my mind in questioning if he can make you this angry then you're still emotional attached to him.
im just so heated right now I don't know what to do
Most Helpful Girl
I'd just have a sit down with her and talk. And I mean talk not show any aggression or that's your pissed off with her. Just say you do really care about her and you want her in your life but you need to know she's over her ex. Not being nasty but it seems like she's using you as a rebound. Maybe a couple of week away from each other will clear both of your minds about why you are with each other. Talk nicely to her and don't accuse her of anything. That way she may open up more to you and you can get to the bottom of this. I would let her know that you talking about him to people is gettin you down though x0
Most Helpful Guy
"in my mind in questioning if he can make you this angry then you're still emotional attached to him."
i think this sums things up. it doesn't sound like she's cheating or anything but it does sound like she is hung up on this guy. if she truly wasn't interested in him and had issues with the way he had treated her you would think that she wouldn't even associate with him. the fact that she does and still discusses frustrations about their relationship seems to suggest that she i still hung up on him
i think you have to talk to her about it. explain that you find their situation to be one of people who aren't quite over each other. and if that's the case you don't feel like you can be in a relationship with a person who is still hung up on an ex (positively or negatively)0