This past year, I dated a relatively "poor" guy, and it would turn out to be my first long-term relationship. When I first met him, he told me that he didn't have a car and was not working at that point, but then as the relationship progressed three months later, I helped him look for a job and take him to and from the job. Once he began working more, we were able to go out more. Since the job was temporary, he was once again unemployed for about a month. So we'd just stay indoors and play video games. This didn't bother me since I enjoyed his company and loved him for him. Also, there are tons of things to do despite not having the funds to go all out. He was able to find another job, and then we were able to go out more. The experience was eye-opening for me because it taught me how to live with less and how to enjoy each other's company. I would prefer a humble guy over an arrogant one any day.
for something like student loans (smart debt) or things out of his control (layoffs, illness, etc.), then sure. but if it's because he gambled it away or knowingly made poor decisions, it tells me that he's irresponsible~ not something i'd want in a life partner.
Of course they would. I live in poverty and honestly, only ever hear white people talking about money in relationships as if it's an issue. Or I should say more affluent people. And online. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say "he is too poor, I can't date him" in my life.
Like that whole "living with his parents" thing is not really an issue in the hood lol I'll tell you that much.
I wouldn't actively pursue someone in a situation like that because that's completely irresponsible. However, if my partner were to fall in a rut and things went south I'd stick by his side. I'd help him find a job, I'd be his emotional support and I'd keep him motivated. If the love of my life fell on hard times I'd be his cheerleader then more than ever. That's when he needs me the most!