Honestly.. I don't buy women shit. I don't pay for their meals and I don't pay for their drinks. Everytime I go out with a girl we split it 50/50. If this new generation of third wave feminist wants to act like they are all about gender equality then I'll tell them to pay for my meals lol. Just lmfao @ guys wasting their money on women at young ages when they are actually broke. There are plenty of other ways to show women that you care other than with your wallet. Wake up boyos.
When I date a guy, I don't expect him to put a down payment on the POTENTIAL of having a relationship with me, because plain and simple, it might not happen.
I'm a big girl. I go to work, bust my ass, and I have my own bank. My vagina and the prospect that you may one day get to see it does not entitle me to have my stuff paid for. I can pay my half, you pay yours. There's plenty of other ways that you can interest me outside of throwing food and drinks at me, say, I don't know... actually be a bit intriguing and have some cool shit to say?
They don't know any better and possibly aren't desirable enough to get girls to want to hookup with them. Girls are generally pickier about who they will hookup with compared to who they will go on dates with.
I don't know why any guy would want to pay for dates, especially considering the girl he is paying to take out has likely sent nudes and had sex with guys in the past who didn't spend a dime on them.
Its also a waste if the date never leads to anything. So if you pay for every girl and go on a bunch of dead end dates then youve wasted your money with nothing to show for it.
I have a old school mentality. If a guy shows interest in me, and invites me out on a date, it is expected that he pay. It's something called common courtesy. Just like, if I were to ask a guy out, I'd cover all costs of the date. I believe 50/50 should happen when both are well acquainted with each other or in an actual relationship. If the guy chooses to continue to pay for everything, then that is a decision he made. A man paying for a woman's meal shouldn't be made a big deal out of, if it is it shows me that he has a petty mentality. I mean, is a $10-20 meal really that big of a deal? There's more important things to worry about in life, and if that is one of his major concerns then we have nothing in common.
I HATE when guys buy me shit. Like fuck off I can pay for myself but they do it on their OWN. Like im in line at Starbucks, get to the counter and the barista tells me that the guy ahead of me gave her 5 dollars for my coffee. Like what the actual fuck, no just no
Agree because every penny saved is a huge help in the long run.
With you on this one. I've never let a guy pay for me, it makes me feel weird. Even if they insist, I don't let them, honestly because I usually end up not liking them and would feel bad if they paid for something for me and I never talked to them again lol
I don't expect guys to pay for me. We're all still young adults with small jobs after all. But if he does, it shows he cares enough for me to buy me stuff. If he doesn't I wouldn't hold it against him though.
That's why if the girls wants a date before both of you going home, you take her to a coffee shop, it's cheap, so she won't get too mad if when she realizes she has to pay, and if she does get mad (she won't tell you she's pissed, obviously), after you've had sex, she won't ever call you again. It's a perfect scenario.
Paying $50 on a nice dinner for a first date, just for her to tell you 2 hours later on her doorstep, that she's not really interested in taking things further, is plain stupid.
I definitely agree. Girls whom you don't know should not expect a guy to pay for anything. If we are friends then it's okay 50/50. Bestie you pay me back later. Getting to know her or she's a stranger. Hell no.
Nightclubs are the BIGGEST waste of money for men of our generation.
A man will spend on average £10 to enter the club and a further £20 for drinks.
Most clubs are free for girls, or they will have some sort of discount. When it comes to drinks, depending on their attractiveness, girls will be offered drinks by desperate girls.
I was at a club a few weeks ago with my two mates. I picked up about 3 girls and headed to a bar. This girl comes over to me and asks me to buy her a drink, she doesn't even ask my name or say hello lol.
I asked the barman for a glass of tap water and handed to her saying it was vodka. My mates and I just walked off lol.
I agree. I don't even waste my time on women, either. They're not worth your time, money, or energy, dude. I care about food, video games, and my rifle more than I care about a woman. Why bother? They'll just divorce you in the end if you do put a ring on their finger. And who's got time for that?
Man honestly i think guys these days value money less, it's because of all this tech, we feel like we could be making big bucks one day anyways because we see other guys doing it online or on tv, I also believe i lot of guys spend the money because it's like what the hell the use in saving or investing when I get paid so little and bills eat up my money you get me.
Neutral cause every time I bring it up they make me feel bad. Like I'm cheap or something but they won't go 50/50 or take turns. The one time she agreed then cancelled saying she didn't have the money wtf
I think if you invite someone out, you're entitled to pay. I've invited friends out for drinks and bought theirs. I've also had girls invite me out and pay for mine. I think that's just how it works, at least where I'm from.
Young women don't care about money, typically, at least when dating guys their age.
Once women hit mid 20's, many care about a guy's money.
But they care what he has and earns, not what he spends on them. They like it when rich guys throw money around because it suggests power. If a broke guy takes all his money and spends it he looks desperate, which is the opposite of power.
Course not all women look at money as a main proxy of power, and there are lots of types of power you can have - big muscles, big wallet, big influence, being 'cool' and having social power, being respected among sjw circles, whatever. All are forms of power. Different girls respond to different types, more or less.
Because you are big, aesthetic and alpha so you command a sizable sense of control in the relationship and women know they can't manipulate you because you can have another girl lined up to replace her.
For a lot of men they have to go through several rejections by girls for 1 to say yes so the girl has the power dynamic in the relationship and men are too afraid to start back from ground zero so they try to pander up to the woman by paying for things for her.
I have no idea why guys would do that. I haven't been on a date but we are splitting it.
Is there no love in the dating scene in the US? Everyone seems so bitter (men and women)