I believe that the person who initiates the date is the one who pays (Unless the other person went overboard with the spending, like the guy initiates the date and buys just a $5 meal, then the girl buys the most expensive meal.) If I ask a guy out, I'm inviting him to do something with me. I am asking him to enjoy himself with me. That shouldn't require him to pay since it wasn't his idea. And vice versa.
I'm willing to pay if it's settled beforehand but if I go on a date I only carry as much cash as I need. If she mentions she would like me to pay I'll bring enough cash for us both. If not she'd better bring her wallet. I also better be getting a next time if she makes me pay. I have had absolutely no good experiences when it comes willingly paying for dates. She will want to go to an expensive ass restaurant and then she orders the most expensive thing in the menu! I started taking my dates to places that are free or not very costly but thoughtful. If she can't appreciate that and she feels the need to be superficial and materialistic then she isn't worth my time.
I thought the one who ask the other person out will pay? I alway follow this rule. This work with party and other social gathering as well, If I invite people , then I will play the role of the host and pay unless we agree to share beforehand. This has nothing to do with gender equality in my opinion, just basic social etiquettes.
"80% of questions are statements" I like this, very good point! If I was dating a girl I wouldn't really care but we likely wouldn't eat out too much. Someone linked a pretty relevant video on if a girl doesn't unlock the guys door for him while he's walking around to his side she's not worth it haha. Shows she's not selfish.
I've normally gotten at least a bj in the car after paying for a first date meal. Sometimes full-on sex. A few of times sex had to wait til second date. In the post-feminism era we live in, women are so shocked at a man paying for dates that they feel obligated to repay with the only thing they have that a man would possibly want. Plus women my age are desperate to land a wallet and they know if they don't put out, we will next them immediately.
I guess a different mindset and views which appeals to a certain type of guy. I hate to use the term allow, but my husband would not allow me to pay for any meals when we were dating. He knew I didn't have much money and he was in a much better place financially. It wasn't worth the fight honestly. Having to go back and fort with the "no I'll pay" crap I felt bad about it and always tried to choose the cheapest option because I knew he was paying. He just loves to spoil me. Thats the type of guy he is. He bought me my first laptop for Christmas and we had only been officially dating for two months (talking longer). He never made me feel like I had to repay him though. He loved me and wanted to give me somthing I needed. I still thought of ways to repay him though.
I'd say don't expect a guy to pay for you, but if he does don't feel bad about it. If I made the money he did at the time I would have down the same in return for him. It's not about what she can offer. You can't compare two girls by whether one pays for dinner or not.
I grew up in a time where the guy paid for the date. I don't expect a fancy restaurant, but something better than fast food. There's a lot of family restaurants that have reasonable pricing and I definitely don't go for the most expensive thing on the menu either.
So you expect me to pay for the date and get up off some pussy at the end of the evening? Ain't gonna happen!
I don't tend to expect this. I've learned to expect my best friend to pay for meals, but that's because he uses "you're company" when I'm down visiting him & the fact that he makes in about a week what I make in a month when he's visiting me. He does let me pay on occasion if we're eating someplace like Wendy's & I insist so I don't feel like I'm taking advantage of him. I think people need to find a solution that works for both where neither feels like they are being taken advantage of or taking advantage of the other.
The opportunity to let the man treat me. I've met a lot of guys who like paying and it makes them feel good to treat their girlfriends. I don't usually expect a guy to pay for me but they usually do anyway.
Chivalry shouldn't die, yet girls can't just expect everything they have to be payed for by the male, I find that disrespectful. I invite I pay, he invites he pays, and sometimes we just pay for ourselves. So like whatever.
Guys I've dated like to pay, so they pay. Especially for the first date. I find us going halves later on though, just not right at the start.
I think it's wrong for a man or a women to expect or assume that someone they've just met should " foot" the entire bill. Both people should automatically pay their own way. It puts too much pressure on one person if he/she is expected to pay for two people. It's unfair.
I'd always pay for my share, but if the guy insisted he pay for me then I'd insist that I pay the next time
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