You are having dinner with your significant other. He receives a phone call. He has a full conversation. What do you do? I felt disrespected and left. Was I wrong?
2mo You are having dinner with your significant other. He receives a phone call. He has a full conversation. What do you do? I felt disrespected and left. Was I wrong? It wasn't an emergency, he had a casual conversation about some races going on Sunday which he is attending with his brother. It wasn't anything serious that couldn't wait 15 minutes until we finished eating dinner. Instead he talked the whole time like if I wasn't there. Thanks everyone for your responses.
I'll swap genders here, because I'm a straight male.
It depends on the level of urgency of that call. If it was her boss who wanted some urgent information, or a friend/family who had some emergency, I wouldn't mind at all. But if it was just someone who wanted to have mindless chatter with her, I would be really disappointed.
I guess it depends on your situation and how your boyfriend is. The guy I am seeing sometimes gets emergency calls, and he has to take them. I totally get it. I don't get mad. Maybe it's a family emergency or just a friend in need. I am just happy when he comes back. I see no reason to get mad. I can see if he's constantly leaving dinner. But if he respectfully leaves then comes back there's nothing wrong with that.
If it was someone who was just looking to make plans tomorrow, well they can wait. I personally screen calls before I answer, because if it's not important then I won't answer. Most people can send a message to you via text or something else if it's not urgent.
I understand that you two were having dinner together, and this generation seems as if they cannot put their phones away or silence it to share intimate moments with the people they care for. I would have spoke to him about this before reacting in such an extreme manner. If he continued to do that (in other situations) , then I would have reacted the way you did. The communication barrier needs to be worked on if you want your relationship to work. Verbally speak before reacting.
Is it business? Was it someone who has a bad habit of being a bit overbearing and over talkative and he was maybe trying not to be rude?
It would be annoying but I wouldn't go so far as to get that bent out of shape about it unless it became a habit. I'd probably even tell him I found it pretty annoying and tell him to avoid it in the future but I wouldn't get up and leave.
No your not wrong. If it's disrespectful to you then it was disrespectful to you. To be honest I would feel weird and left out. If he said, excuse me [fill in the blank] and then left, I would understand. But it should not be done at the dinner table. It could have been an emergency. But that is why you excuse yourself. It's not right to do that to a person, nor is it classy. Let alone attractive. Your bound to lose interest very quickly.
hi, unless it was an emergency which wouldn't last that long or his child then totally unacceptable and disrespectful. he should of said he was at dinner with you or busy and ended the call. thats worse than someone at a checkout on the phone because thats a stranger and you are his partner. who was it? and did you bring it up afterwards? what was his excuse/reason?
Where? At home or outside? If it's at home I don't mind because dinner at home tends to be more casual. But if it's outside like at restaurant, It definitely upsets me especially if the call isn't urgent or emergency. Tell him that you aren't happy with what he did and do not do it again in the future.
I guess it depends on what the phone call was about? If it was just a friend with random talk then yes of course I would have felt disrespected. My husband to be honestly won't even answer his texts or phone if we are together unless he is expecting a call which he tells me. He started that on his own I never once told him he had to.