i am a very emotionally stable, caring, and loving person. So it's fair to say I'm safe. I'm not boring or routine. Far from it. I'm just emotionally safe. You'll never have to worry about me cheating and I'm always honest. I'm supportive and mature. I have a well paying job and I'm family oriented. I'm loving and caring. I'm faithful and loyal. Why do I have such problems finding women? Am I just a dick in a wood chipper? Is my personality and my demeanour a turn off?
Most Helpful Girl
What you've described is the bare minimum that most people want in a partner. Sure it gives you a heads up on all the people who lack those qualities but it's not anything special in and of itself. It's like saying these shoes are great because they cover my feet. Well, yeah, that's what shoes are supposed to do.
What do you mean that you have problems finding women? Do you have trouble getting dates? Or are the dates you are getting not turning into something more serious? The first issue may be one of how you come across initially or that you need to put yourself out there more. The second issue is just luck. Some people find someone they like, and who likes them back, quickly while others can spend years not finding someone who is compatible or reciprocates.0
Most Helpful Guy
Well, I think you are a very good person and I am sure most women will find these qualities that you have very attractive. I am not sure why you would have problems finding women. At least I would say it's not a turn off.
Now, I know that you have not mentioned your complete personality, what you have mentioned is just an overview of yourself but I think few reasons because of which you are having problems finding women could be:
1. May be you are too good or too nice a person. Now there is a difference between being a nice guy and good guy, now I am not sure where you are falling and in which category. It's possible that you are 100% a nice guy or 100% a good guy. In which case it can be a turn off to women. It's unfortunately true.
2. Cont from the above point, being 100% nice or 100% good is actually not going to help you in today's world. I am not saying that you should stop being nice or stop being good. No of course, you should definitely be nice, you should be good, what I am saying is don't be 100% nice or 100%good.
3. It's possible that you are too soft hearted by nature and that can put a woman off. I mean being soft hearted is good but if you are always like that and in all situations that can come off as a weakness and will make a woman look like as if you can easily influenced.
4. It's possible that you are complete " SELFLESS" by nature.
From all these points, I am not at all saying that you should stop being nice or a good guy but what I am trying to say is you should also have these qualities in you:
4. Be a little rebellious
3. You should have some standards and go after the kind of woman that you have in mind, you shouldn't be too much open minded. You should be a little rigid, don't be too flexible because that won't help you either
Now, let me explain these points
Now you should be a little selfish, if you always self less by nature then that will give an impression to the woman that you are weak, you give in easily and that you really don't care about yourself or your needs in life. You are ready to sacrifice yourself for others. Hence be a little selfish that will indicate that you care about yourself and you have some self- respect.
Now, selfishness and stubbornness go hand in hand. Means if you are selfish, then you are likely to be stubborn as well. At least it's true most of the times, if not always.