So actually I mostly want to hear your stories about your first relationship
I'm 19 yo and have had my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He is great, treats me well and we always figure things out and talk well with eachother
But... I'm not sure I'd like to be with him forever, though he is completely sure
And I'm kind of scared because he is so sure. I'd like to just enjoy the moment, but the fact that I know he would like the relationship to last forever and have kids and stuff like that scares the shit out of me. We have talked about it, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm almost raised to be curious and indeed also with men
One thing that also makes me think about breaking up, is that he's not really that adventurous, but I'm the kind person who would travel the whole world if it's possible
I'm afraid I'll end up "setteling down" with the first and easiest
Though, I love him and I want to be with him now, I can't stop thinking if it's really just making the unavoidable break up worse
So, are you in your first relationship and do you think one should be and lastly do you think I should?
Thanks for any help!
Would anyone end up thinking," man how would it have been if this hadn't been my first and last relationship "
Most Helpful Guy
It's hard to give you an advice on this because no matter what we say you will keep wondering. The good thing is that you are young so whatever you decide will play out good.
When you meet more people you soon realize that good ones (or keepers) are really rare and my advice would be if your guy is really good not to dump him. But again this won't stop you from wondering, so it's better if you dump him now than you drag him for months or years...1
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Most Helpful Girl
In my 2nd (3rd if you count the internet one and 4th if you count my childhood one), and am experiencing a similar thing -
I have been with my boyfriend 9 months, still like him, he's sweet, he tries to fix it If there's a problem, we seem to get on well and he talks about wanting to marry me when we're older, and says that I am his one true love and he has a feeling I might be the one.
Don't get me wrong, I like him too. I really like him. It's just that I don't yet get the feeling that HE'S the one or that I want to marry him. All I know is I just really like him and want our relationship to work out though I do get my doubts sometimes and we might have to make a few changes.
I was recently wondering if I was just pro-longing breaking up with him too, and the thought of marrying him or us being together forever scares me in case I regret it and then when I break up I've wasted more time and made it even more upsetting for him.
I'm trying to work out just what I'd like from the relationship more though and discuss with him it's bothering me that he doesn't do this or that. I recently spoke about going out more since we tend to stay in each others rooms a lot and I'd like to go out and do something fun with him whereas isn't as into the outdoors as much.
I've also spoken to him about Skyping/fb calling more like we used to when we were friends and he called me on fb a little later that day and called me on there earlier too.
I have spoke about him holding my hand more when we are out and just being more open about our relationship on fb too rather than worry about his friends winding him up if he posts a pic of us together, since it upsets me that the only reason he won't is basically his friends might play him up. It upsets me because I have a trust issues and I'd like him to care more about me than what some silly boys think.
He hasn't done anything like that yet though (making it more obvious on fb), I just want to see if he'd do it really since it kind of shows loyalty to me. It may sound silly but I just find it embarrassing talking about my boyfriend all the time and he rarely likes/comments my stuff, never posts pics of us together, never writes on my wall and only tags me in stuff like funny pics/videos rather than anything romantic.
Despite the doubts, things may be fixed if he just changes how he acts in certain ways and perhaps puts more effort in, and I do still think he's cute whenever I see him as well as sweet and I don't want anyone else to have0
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