So I'm confused. How do you take it when a guy isn't interested after a first date?
I frequently get told I'm pretty, sexy, cute, etc. and not just from men, but women too.
i am curvy/full figuredish (not in the gigantic bbw category) which I completely understand isn't everyone's thing, however, I never have issues attracting men or getting dates.
last night, I went on a first date and the guy literally told me I was "damn gorgeous" and so pretty that I could wear a trash bag and look amazing.
Then tonight, I went on a different first date and while he was nice and everything, I was getting the vibe he wasn't into it. I texted him shortly after and told him that was the vibe I got and he said, "I hope I wasn't rude or anything. You are a very interesting person and you didn't do anything wong, but yes I wasn't feeling it. But that's what dating is about! I wish you luck finding that someone."
so since I'm not boring and didn't do anything wrong, doesn't that leave that I wasn't pretty to him?
And it's weird, I literally had an ex who would put his glasses back on during sex so he could see me better...
I'm just feeling ugly I guess?
I've been on a lot of dates the past couple months, most of them have wanted to see me again but a few haven't, and I don't know how to feel.
Most Helpful Guy
Nahhh sis. Looks aren't everything yeah they are important but you both need to click as well. Did you get the vibe the whole time you where on the date? If so he might be hung up on some girl atm.
But in the end your personalitis probably didn't match up.0
Most Helpful Girl
No, you are pretty. He was attracted to you, otherwise I think he wouldn't have gone out with you. Perhaps he met you and just got a feeling that you weren't for him. Sometimes when you meet a person, things are great online and in text. But when you meet them, the chemistry or something is just not there.
Try not to take it too personal, though I know that is hard. Trust me, it's not to do with your looks. Perhaps after talking with you he felt you two were just too different and things wouldn't work out. Perhaps he already has a thing with someone but agreed to the date beforehand and didn't want to cancel.
I think it's normal to feel how you feel. But that is how dating is. Most guys won't see you again, even if they seemed like they were interested.
I've been online for almost a year now after my last break up. Not my first time online, but lots of guys have not came for a second date. It is what it is.
I've seen some guys for a few months, not official or anything and then they drift away. It sucks, but it is what it is. I don't try to force things. If they want to see me, they will make an effort. If not, well that's their loss. I just move on.
You'll eventually find a guy who is crazy about you. But until then try not to take it too personal. People have all sorts of reasons for what they do. It's not always just about you. It could be that they just aren't ready, or have other things going on. Sometimes you later find it that is a blessing in disguise.
There have been guys who I had gone on a date with, who I later find out aren't actually great people at all. So just try to keep your head up and move forward! :)0