For me it's hard to find guys to date for a serious relationship because most of them wanna get married and have kids. I definitely don't and won't ever have kids!!! Never ever!!! I have other plans! Like career and stuff. But do you think it's hard to find someone to date if you don't want kids or is it just me? (Talking about long term relationships) and also do you want kids? Why or why not? And if you do are you gonna be or do you want a stay at home parent or not?
Most Helpful Guy
Nope, but I've been single for so long that you may not actually believe.
For me it's more so on those ethical and moral philosophical and becasuse of my very own really really deep thinking. I see that this reality and world is a really unfair, cruel and horrible place to be brought into existence to as no matter what we do, who we are, what we have, what we know, what we gained or have attained such as materialism etc., it all seems completely empty and hollow and futile to me as in We Will All Die In The End No Matter What We Do. We'll eventually lose everything, and I mean EVERYTHING we had ever own, lose everyone we ever known or "loved" since everyone can die at any time unexpectedly, as unexpected tragedies happen all the time. And I find that procreation is just only the means of trying to prevent and postponing complete extinction, as there really are no guarantees what could happen in the cosmos and in all of time and space that could cause a total collapse and cataclysm of our entire world. Such as a meteor.
But at the same time, it's continuing the possibility of suffering and deaths over and over and over again in a repeated cycle, as all births will ALWAYS end in death and those that are born will always be able to feel suffering and pain prior to Death over the course of their entire lifetime.
I really don't understand why this is the way it is and had to be the way it is as I find it completely absurd.
As for the unfairness in this world, we're pretty much in a sort of borderline dystopian world now, and it has yet to get worse eventually. What I meant is that only the most powerful such as authority figures and can influence the governments in the world, wealthy, corrupt, privileged, or those that have the connections to them runs the world will have most if not all of the advantage and everybody else pretty much will always get fucked over for being at the bottom, and will actually be slaves for all the wealthy and powerful and corrupt people. I don't want someone else to come here and realize this one day and feel really unhappy with how this reality is, and if I choose to never bring someone into this existence I'm already unhappy and disappointed with and also nihilistic about, then they never have to go through the same empty and unhappy emotions and thoughts that I am currently going through. Only those that have the power, wealth and authority have any actual "fairness" as in "Might Is Right" and "Survival of The Fittest".1
Most Helpful Girl
Not really? I've found most guys don't want it.
And tbf I don't think I do anyway. As I've had a chat with my boyfriend we agreed if it happens by mistake/accident then Yeh we'll have it as I think abortions wrong (not that I'm judging anyone else for it as its their body and they have their reasons. Just personally I couldn't go through with it knowing it's my mistake) but we don't want to go out of our way to have kids as we're not fond of them anyway.1