My best friend and I hooked up. It was amazing, emotional and went all the way through into the next morning. The only problem is he's moving away for grad school. He doesn't want to continue doing this because he's worried that we'll get too attached and that every time I visit, hooking up is all we'll do. But I want to continue. I understand that he's leaving, but why not get the most of the few weeks we have. How can I tell him this?
Most Helpful Guy
Good question! Sex is something that should be done with respect first. And you should know that doing sex emphasis emotional attachment. Maybe he really likes you, he really enjoy sex with you but maybe you're not his girl...
Keep in mind that when you have his penis in your hands, you also have its heart in your hands. be careful at what you do with it. If you want to keep this boy as a good friend for long time, don't forget to listen to him and respect the line where he feels comfortable or not to do sex with you.
Love, peace, happiness, hugs and cuddles :-)0
Most Helpful Girl
He doesn't want to do it. Respect his wishes and let it go. It's inconsiderate of you to do otherwise. All you want to use him for is sex and that takes a toll on some people. You're basically looking at him as an object and not a best friend. IF you care about him, you'll understand that he doesn't want to continue having sex with you whether it be he is invested in you romantically and doesn't want to get attached or he just didn't find the sex as "amazing" and "emotional" as you did. When a person says no, listen. That's the problem with people. All they care about is themselves and see no problem with crossing other people's boundaries to get what they want. You're not even listening to how he's feeling. It's all about you.
Reality Check: IT'S NOT.
I'm not trying to be an asshole, but if this situation were reversed people would be bashing the guy on this comment section for not accepting that the girl doesn't want to continue. He's your best friend. Not your boyfriend. Not your f-buddy (at least, anymore). Treat him like a friend, not an object.0