First of all, my long distance partner is 27 years old and I am 18, I am not too concerned about the age gap, but my problem is that he says he is a virgin, and I have a hard time believing it. He is orginally from India but has been living in the U. S. for about a year now, I talked to him before he came to the U. S. to study. We often have phone sex but sometimes he says descriptive things such as "when we have sex I Will be able to feel my balls touch your p****" etc and it makes me think that he isn't a virgin, because how would he know? He is flying to meet me and I really want to make love with him... but... if he isn't a virgin it is a deal breaker because that would mean he lied. Do you have any input?
Umm theirs porn, erotic literature and anatomical diagrams. "balls touch your p****" just reqier's you to think for a few seconds how shapes go together. Peg, whole round things at end of peg slap against whole if peg doesn't hit the end of whole it's not rocket science!
When a penis is inserted into the lovely hole of a vagina and is fully inserted, whatever is attached to the penis or vagina can touch aka balls and pussy lips/skin. It's sorta common sense and virgins aren't idiots. Porn, erotica or friends could have also taught him that
Well maybe he lied because he wanted to create a good impression about himself but the foundation was on lies. Of course even that so called good impression is just a fake to impress the woman and it will the woman the perception that this man has some good morals and values.
Maybe hold of on making love to him and get to know him better first. If you find other things that you know for sure he lies about then maybe he's lying about this to. Either way you don't trust him yet so don't sleep with him. Don't assume he's lying without good reason/proof (the things he's saying doesn't mean anything, could've seen/heard things with porn) but don't ignore your instincts either. You need to feel safe, comfortable and relaxed with him, not have doubts and question his honesty.
Both sexes lie about virginity, I would say the reason (if he did) should not worry you too much, whatever it may be.--serious has a good point about `morals' Some cultures have stricter social moral codes, he could feel a bit ashamed that he broke one of them (sex before marriage) so he lies. Imagine the shoe on the other foot.
Not too many guys at 27 will admit to being a virgin. There is usually a lot of pressure for guys to lose it at a young age. So I can't see why a 27 year old would lie about that. Virgins aren't idiots either. I am still a virgin but I know enough.