I've been striking out over and over with guys. Please help me out guys what am I doing wrong? I am coming out of an awful relationship and learning the strength of my own personality but im afraid I might be intimidating. Last guy I met (very nice guy had a great day) didn't even offer me his phone number. I wanted to do touristy things so I paid for it. And I'm very talkative. This is the 4th time I've struck out. Please help?
You're strong in your new found independence. You just started back in that murky dating pool. It truly sucks.
Most of the time a person knows it just isn't in the cards on date one or date two; that's why most people don't get much past date two or three before trying someone else. This is normal, not even "striking out." It's nothing you're doing, I bet. It's wise to not pay a lot of attention to the obligatory "I had fun" texts unless there is talk of a specific date in the future.
Don't look at each guy as a potential mate, just look at him as a fun evening. I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found my prince.
It's tough to know what exactly you're doing wrong with men with only a paragraph to go off.
It's often hard to self reflect accurately so if you have any male friends, you should consider asking them for advice and opinions. I say male friends because female friends only giving a woman's perspective on what they think is attractive to men which is not always the case
For me intimidating girl are those who usually are just attractive to me. Those who are repulsive are those who smokes, are hyperactive, ask me services as i don't know them already (hey, what would you think about helping me out fixing my house, i have no men)...
It's hard to say really if you are or not since i am not in you're friend circle and i never assisted to you facing boys to have an idea myself of the situation.
Some think that going to straight forward can be intimidating but, a girl that would just come at me and tell me she find me beautiful asking me if she can just stay there or have a walk with me, that would not make me freak. Instead, a girl get to me with overdose of assurance trying to negociate live on the spot something with me... bad idea. I hate to argue when it comes to being with someone, i want it easy goin." -Do we go left? - Any direction as long as i'm with you"...
Don't except a guy offering you a phone number, leave yours instead. Don't ask, offer :-)
You shoud not assume that since you find a guy attractive, he will be in return. expecting a guy you find cute to give you his phone number is a good way to collect deceptions i think. I never had a phone number out of a girl i was really into. and i am not excepting the girl i have a crush on me to give it to me. At least, if it begins with a natural smile from the person, i'll be already happy with that. So many girls just don't smile back at me as i do so!
If you have to ask- you're probabaly very offputting in some way shape or form. I don't think it's that guys are intimidated by you. Very few women could ever intimidate me with their personality. Sounds like you rationalizing. I would assess other variables that might be causing a strain in your dating life.
Let's see... you got married too young and then regretted it, and on a scale from 1 to 10, you are at best a 4.
What you should be doing is to figure out the kind of guy that likes the kind of girl you are, then look for that kind of guy. Stop wasting time on guys who aren't going to like you in the first place. This works for anyone. Once you figure out what to look for, your rejection rate drops dramatically and your yes rate goes up.
a girl is only intimidating if they dont approach and initiate things with a guy, for example: showing love and what you want and desire, plus otherwise if you dont he won't know what you want from him.
You're not intimidating. But I've read some of your opinions on this site and you don't come across as a likeable person. You talk too much can be a problem but some your views make it seem like you think you're superior to others and that would make a lot of men walk (if not run) away from you.
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