His 2 teenage daughters only visit for the summer and will be going home in a few weeks. He told me last week that he is going to give all of himself to them until they leave. I met them several times and it went well. But he told me from the beginning that they dont like him having a girlfriend and throw tantrums when he tries to go out he's lost gfs over the summer because of this. Now for about a week he's stopped all communication with me no more calls or texts. I understand we can't make plans. He called me Friday night from a bar and asked me to meet him for a beer. I did and all he kept saying was please be patient. Everythung will go back to normal soon. But what I don't understand is why he's stopped communicating with me unless I text and ask him about himself. I'll tell him to have a good night and get no"you have a good night too" or any response. It's like he doesn't care about me anymore. Yet a few weeks ago he was pouring his heart out to me and asking me if I want to build a life together. It's messing with my head and confusing. I'm not sure what to do.
I understand that he only has his daughters for the summer and wants to spend all his free time with them and focus on them but what about us?
What Guys Said 2
I've dated a woman with children before. You have to KNOW that the kids ALWAYS COME FIRST!! You can't possibly get into a relationship with someone with teen daughters, and not expect that he will focus on them, over you!!
It is your choice to understand, and know that HE NEEDS TO DO THAT, with them, and you need to just relax, and trust that he cares about you, but they are his KIDS!! THEY ALWAYS COME FIRST!!
If they don't like you right now, that is just the way it is. Deal with it, if you care for him.
Let him have his time with them, and don't complain, or even mention it. If he has a good relationship with his kids, he will eventually tell them that you are his new companion, love, and they will respect that, because he said so, and you didn't make any issue with sharing time, with him, when he only had a short time with them.
He SHOULD, DEFINITELY, make A VERY SPECIAL EFFORT, and maybe SEVERAL DATES, with you, after they leave, just to make you feel like he wasn't ignoring you, or you aren't important, to him!
He's confused, trying to make his girls happy, with whatever happened between him and their mother, and he wants you to be happy, but sometimes you have to choose, and Kids always come first! You need to know that, and accept that!! It won't change!
When they are back with their mother, he will probably try to make it up, to you. Make him put some effort into it, but don't be mean!! :)0
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They are teen-ager and girls
They need him the most now , they may be don't know that but he does
You were a girl at this age and know how he can be vital for them0
What Girls Said 1
Kids always come first.1
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