I don't mean "taking a break" as in you and your boyfriend are girlfriend are putting your relationship on hold. I mean in the sense that you've dated and pursued relationships for a while, but at some point, you just needed to take a step back and re-evaluate things.
What was/were your reason (s)? How long was it before you started dating again? I am right now. A lot has happened over the last few years and I need to take some time off from it to re-evaluate and re-prioritize things in my life.
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, after my first and second boyfriend. Thats why I dont understand rebound relationships, and I don't know how some people can have "backups" ready for once it's over.
It literally takes me over a year to finally be over him. And then a take a few months to just reevaluate my life and see what do I actually want. To try to improve myself, be happy with myself, to see who I am when I'm alone and be comfortable like that. I feel that sometimes people are with others simply because they hate themselves so much, and its better (in their eyes) to be with someone they're unhappy with (their partner) than someone they hate (themselves).
It's sad really, and I encourage serial daters to try and be alone for a while, and yes, this includes no casual sex lol5
Most Helpful Guy
yes, after last breakup (4yrs) I had gone into counseling before that ended and took a break of around 6-8 months. During that I had lost my job of 25 years so double whammy. I got my environment (house) in order, went to counseling to work on me stuff and understand what happened, I looked at profiles and read, studied, learned and worked on myself and in general got myself fixed up. Honestly right out of the last relationship I tried to online date someone and she freaked on me. It added hurt ontop of hurt and That was what totally motivated me to stop and figure out what was going on. I learned so much from all of that I'm a new person. What lies beneath so many problems is an insufficiently developed inner child... a wounded emotional child that is controlling the adult and guiding them into trouble over and over.
All of it was well worth it. I can look back at that terribly painful relationship and the loss and be thankful for it because it got me to a new level... I would have never seen by just reading books. Gotta stop and learn from the tragedies... or they will be repeated until you do. That was my case.
I applaud your taking a pause, you have all kinds of time. p. s. I took long breaks in my 20s but I didn't do any work on me... I just lived and that doesn't help. Failure to do work on your inner self and learn means repetition of problems until you do.0