Im talking to this girl I met online and we are borderline dating. Not official but we act like a couple with each other. We fully intend to meet up in person soon. I was just wondering if anyone had good date ideas for the first official date when I finally meet her.
2mo I am not trying to hook up. I am legitimately trying to be with this girl.
alright... since you've never met this person before I would meet 1 on 1 first. Like talk at the park, or in a car, or at each others house. I wouldn't say only do that though because sometimes it can look like you only intend to be sexual or like you don't want to be seen in public together. After you get to get a feel for eachother in person go do something fun!! I would suggest an amusement park... if you're both down for it. You can talk while waiting in line, get close on the ride, and of course have fun. Another suggestion would be a hike. Take a hike somewhere, you'll have fun walking and exploring, then you can take a little stop to hammock and cuddle a little, and then head back out. I wouldn't suggest dinner or movie. I've had a couple bad/awkward first meets there. A movie doesn't allow you to talk and get to know the person. I say save a movie for later. & a dinner date can be awkward on who's paying, not wanting bad breath, not wanting to look like a pig, etc etc.
Coffee... period. Starbucks... pick one with a good brunch spot near by and if it goes well ask her to brunch. Always have something planned that afternoon... don't assume your online chemistry is the same as offline. From the sound of it... looks like your on the right track but still just go for coffee.
I'm a huge fan of simple dates.. like carnival things or fairs or like a walk in the park and getting ice cream, at least for a first date. Not sure if you want to make it a big thing or not. But in my area we have things like an Italian American festival in the community park and all these food vendors come and you walk around and get things and sometimes those like boardwalk vendors will come and you can win little things with games. I think those dates are super cute.
It should be in a public place so you both feel comfortable and safe. It should not be too serious. Fun dates are good first dates. Maybe meet at a bowling place, skating rink, or wherever else you two think is fun and then go get drinks or dessert after?
depending on your wish... if it is for pure sexual reasons cos that happens sometimes... a nice satisfying long sex session is a good date. if you want to really know the guy and have something special, than talking for hours on the subjects you love.
Go out to eat! It's good to be able to talk to someone you haven't met in person before because they may not seem like the person you were talking to online. See if theirs any red flags and if not they're might be a second date!
Personally I'd love to just go for a coffee then a walk. It's a relaxing atmosphere and we can chat and get to know each other better. It's less informal too. First dates can be daunting so I'd rather do something active or fun, than do something which will make me feel awkward and uncomfortable... Such as going for a meal or to the cinema
Personally I like to keep things pretty light and low key on a first date. Drinks, dinner, coffee, walk around the park, grab ice cream. Something that doesn't put a lot of pressure on either person and gives you the opportunity to talk. Don't go to the movies, at least not initially, because there is no time to talk or build any chemistry.
I think the one time I did end up dating a girl I met online, we just went and got coffee and just talked for a few hours. We hit it off and the next day, we just went for a walk around town, got some lunch and ice cream, did some window shopping, and just talked and hung out in a nearby park.
Not recently, but in the past I used to meet a lot of women from online. Meeting up to have lunch or dinner in a restaurant is nice. Coffee at a place like Starbucks is nice if she likes coffee. Often I would meet for coffee first, and then suggest going to a restaurant for lunch if things were going well, in separate cars of course. I would suggest a not too fancy restaurant. She might feel uncomfortable if it were too formal to start.
i felt like a dinner or meal and then a walk was nice in helping to get to know the person better. i know a lot of people feel like dinner is banal or trite but it gives you a great time to have a 1 on 1 conversation. but generally i'd advise things that give people to be 1 on 1 and have a conversation. a walk after dinner especially in a nice area can be really romantic
Something that doesn't cost money (or very little, 5$ max) but can be enjoyable or relaxing and allow you guys to talk. like going for a walk, hike, picnic, play frisby, go fishing, roast marshmallows on a fire with a couple beers or glass of wine etc.. what ever suits your interests most.
Hang out and talk should be priority, doesn't need to be dinner or anything. Unless she likes movie nights at one of your houses then thats easy (DO NOT GO TO THE MOVIES THOUGH, TERRIBLE FUCKING DATE). staring at a sceen in unison for 2-3 hours and not talking... #wasteoftime.
Something cheap and easy to escape from. I'd suggest going to Starbucks or someplace like it and just hanging out for a while. That will give you a chance to see if she pulled the ol' "Bait & Switch", using pics from a couple years and 100 pounds ago. And you won't be out much money, nor much time.
And if things go well, you can always take your coffees and go walk around a park and talk some more.
Do an activity so you can both be engaged in something, and so she has FUN. Worry less about impressing her and focus her on having a good time. Involve something that she enjoys doing. Is she in to art? Animals? Cars? Guns?
Don't do a movie. Movies are cute when you're 16 or 17 because you can sit and hold hands (and make out), but once you're an adult it's time to up your game.
Public area. Low stress, low expectation environment. Coffee shop in a mall. At a local carnival. Some place both parties can get to and get out of easily. Nothing that has a fixed duration like a bus ride or a weekend ski trip etc.