I myself don't find myself attractive at all honestly. I have acne marks, scars, messy boring short brown hair, fat rolls, stretch marks, practically no boobs, big ass feet, a giant forehead, thin lips, a huge nose, and permanent under eye bags. However, for some reason I will not lower my standards. I get that I'm ugly, but I refuse to date other ugly people, which makes no sense. I've been asked out by other unattractive people but I've always turned them down. Everytime I think an attractive guy might be into me it always ends badly. I have some good qualities though. I'm extremely smart. I've always been at the top of my classes, I'm a pretty good artist, I've been told I'm funny as hell, and I have a very open mind. I'm not sure if these qualities can compensate for my lack of outer beauty.
A person being ugly but has high standards? Well, in that case it will be very difficult for them to find someone that matches their high standards. Let's take an example. Like if a man is only 30/100 but he has standards for a woman who is say 80/100 that is a very very attractive woman, then that's going to highly unlilkely for him to ever get that woman.
Unlikely but not impossible because it can happen that a woman who is very attractive can still like the guy who may be ugly but has a very good personality so that woman will likely for for this ugly guy's personality rather than looks, but again the chances are less, very less. Hence if at all the ugly guy is to get an attractive woman who would be way beyond his own standards then that can only happen if he has a good " LUCK" factor otherwise it's highly unlikely.
Hence it's not necessary that people who are ugly and have high standards are doomed to be alone forever but yes the chances are very slim for them to find a person who is way more attractive than them.
I have not heard of many cases where an ugly person has high standards, I mean a person who knows that his standard is only 30/100 then that person having a standard for the other person to be 80/100 doesn't actually make sense, I mean why would that person purposely reduce their chances of finding someone?
Hence a person who know that they are a person of high standards will have high standards for the kind of person they want in their life and that makes sense, yes a little bit of deviation here and there is fine, say 10- 15% ( up or down) but not too much.
Many people seem to have difficulty understanding that unattractive people generally don't find other unattractive people attractive. It's that simple.
There are three possibilities I can see. First, you might not be unattractive, or at least as unattractive as you think. I rejected most women who wanted to date me. My wife, who was lovely, rejected most men who asked her out. Rejection is the norm.
The second is that you might be unattractive, but perhaps due to certain features which can be improved. Change your hair style. Your fashion. Are your teeth straight and white?
The third possibility is that you are physically unattractive and it is due to facial features beyond your control. If this is the case, I truly feel for you. I would then consider trying to make your life as extraordinary as you can on your own.
The good news is the third possibility is the least likely.
In short, yes Of course there's a certain subjectivity to beauty, but by the end of the day dating is kinda like bargaining. Every side tries to get the best for themselves, but you have to be willing to "bargain" to get a deal at all. Most people end up with someone of similar attractiveness, income and education. If you want to date someone who is handsome, rich and educated, then your best bet is to be pretty, rich and educated yourself
Stop worrying about yourself being ugly! If you don't like something about yourself (e. g. your hairstyle) then change it. I personally don't find myself attractive either, although I am (relatively) pretty.
You are not even 18 yet! A lot of things, opinions and takes on attractiveness will change only after school. Attractiveness is not always defined through (socially accepted) beauty.
I think its great to have high standards. But at the same time u get what u put out sometimes. So if you are "unattractive" then attractive people might not go for u. This dosent mean all but the vast majority. For example, if I'm very successful I'm not going to go out with someone who never finished high school. So having high standards is great but I'd do what I can to better myself
My friend seems to be having the same problem. I wouldn't call her ugly, but she has extremely high standards and keeps telling me how to person she has to date has to be "tall, and a brunette, and muscled, and foreign, like Swedish, and kind but kind of an asshole as well". I'd say you'll end up just fine. One day there's gonna be a guy that you find attractive and that finds you attractive.