My boyfriend and I have many arguments about the way I dress. I used to dress very "tomboyish" like baggy shirts, sweaters stuff like that, and my boyfriend hates it. He wants me to dress preppy and girly and sometimes I like the idea of being girly but other times I wanna feel comfortable. If I wear a baggy shirt when I'm around him or have my hair in a bun he will say that it looks like he's dating a dude. Also he hates it if I wear tank tops when he's not around. The tank tops I wear do not show cleavage at all but he hates it regardless and he thinks that I should respect his wishes. Also we are having an argument currently where I was wearing short shorts and a cutout shirt around my house and their was no one here besides my mom and he got really mad at me because he says I never know if someone could be at my house while I'm there. He stopped talking to me and called me immature and stupid. I don't see it as a problem since I'm in my house but he thinks it's a huge problem and I don't know what to do. I tried to apologize many times but he says he can't forgive me because we've had many arguments about the way I dress before. Is he controlling or is it me?
Most Helpful Guy
he's trying to control you, hebshould be happy with what makes you happy! You dont need that and that is very childish ofbhim to act like that! You can do better you do not need nor deserve that!0
Most Helpful Girl
He's controlling. No boyfriend gets to police his girlfriend's appearance. I can understand somewhat if a guy is like, "please don't wear that plunging dress" (although I don't entirely agree, I can still understand). But that's not what you're boyfriend is doing. He wants you to dress up for him every time you see him, and not wear anything attractive when he's not around. At times, he sounds paranoid.
You're not wrong here. He is.1