Seriously... just be honest but don't get mad If I say you are lazy with those stupid selfies in your toothpaste stained mirrors and dirty bedrooms. Most of you are lazy when it comes to online dating then cry that it doesn't work and frankly I can't stand it anymore. For those of you who say it's only for the good looking people I say... blah blah blah... thats not true. The truth is most people put up online dating profiles within 5 minutes just so they can hurry up and start looking at the profiles. I get it... but you never go back and fix your profile or your photos or your grammar.
So let's be honest here... which is it? Are you just lazy or do you really need some help? I will be happy to help as long as your honest with what is really going on. So please... let me know... why you think it's not working for you so I can steer you in the right direction. Of course... they say... you can only lead a horse to water... but you can't make them...
I'd be open for it because there aren't a lot of guys who have the qualities I like in the area I live in. However, so far, I haven't needed to go online. I think it's a good way to date though, you get to meet people you would probably never have known existed before :)
Why do I dislike on-line dating. Okay. The reasons include, but are not limited to: 1. If the pix of the woman is of someone who looks better than a swamp donkey, the profile is a fake created by either the site owners to part men from their money, or scammers in Nigeria or Ghana. 2. It has been my experience that the small number of female profiles that are genuine belong to women who have psychiatric disorders. 3. During my brief experimentation with on-line dating, I tried two sites. As well as the experiences stated above, on each site I received about 200 messages each week from black men in Ghana and Nigeria who pretended, very badly, to be white women in some far-away place who needed financial help to return home so that they could become the love of my life. For a while, It seemed that the Ghanian capital, Akra, was packed with beautiful white women who had been doing some sort of humanitarian work with the United Nations, but had fallen on hard times and were stuck in Akra.
It does suck and I sometimes think the men who browsed my profile might think I'm too masculine because I enjoy 4x4ing and hunting and guns. Seems most want girly girl types, not sure but I'm not going to change for someone and I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression of me by not stating what I enjoy doing or the type of man I'd prefer.
So... I either just give up on it or waste my $. I gave up. The man of my dreams apparently does not exist.
A lot of people with emotional baggage go on online dating. They tend to hide stuff better. I absolutely hate it now. I actually am dating a guy I met online and it hasn't even been 2 months and I'm not liking it. I deleted all my apps, if this guy doesn't work out I'm never resulting to online dating ever again. I'm definitely not lazy when it comes to online dating either. I take my time and talk to people, but it just does not work at all.
I try off and on in short intervals with long breaks in between because it's lame. Convenient for my busy lifestyle but lame at the same time.
I'm skimming through people my age and somewhat older gents and learning how badly people suck at talking in this digital age. They can't carry a conversation for shit. They will have a profile loaded up with photographs of their adventures and a bio naming off all their interests. Ask questions about them and what do you get? Short answers, they don't ask questions, dull flirtatious comments about my looks, in fact they don't seem interested in anything that doesn't involve flattery that will lead up to sex talk.
I have nothing agaisnt dating people online to be honest with you, my problem is with dating websites. I just never liked them, it kind of takes everything out of finding a partner, the whole thing just seems fake, you know why everyone is there, you never know who's real, who's not and if they'll even be the same person you meet in real life.
Call me old fashioned but I'd just rather meet people naturally by chance whether that's online in a place like this by chance or by chance in real life. Then by waiting for people to look at my profile and swipe left or right or whatever you do on those sites. But dating sites just aren't my scene.
PS: I'm not looking for a response to this opinion I'm just answering your question so no need to reply to this.
I've been on dating sites for several years now and rarely obtain any results. I messaged hundreds of women, and about 1% of which I message yield a response. and 1% among those who respond I even got to meet. None of which I dated again after the first time.
I know a big part of it is that I need new pictures. And I don't really have anyone who can help me take photos. (That and I feel odd about asking someone to take a photo of me.)
I hate it because I send extremely thoughtful and witty messages relevant to the girl's profile, yet I get ignored most of the time (Cleaning out my messages 154/176 messages were ignored. There were 3 or 4 genuine conversations and the remainder were only met with a "How are you?" response). It's quite a hit to my confidence as it happens more and more often despite friends and coworkers saying that I'm decent looking and make any girl lucky to have me.
I don't hate it, i just think "hey do you want to go out on a date with me this Friday at 8" is easy to say in person, others might freeze up. And i would not say i am lazy nor in need of some help, I'm just living my life. Girls come and go.
I'll be honest. Online dating is a joke in my opinion. (No offense to anybody) Sharing feelings is something that - In my opinion- needs to be more real than virtual online dating. It's just not good enough. I've never dated anyone myself but this is how I feel about it.
I know for sure I won't find anyone interesting. There are people for anything rather than for serious things. Besides, it's mostly odd people with fake profiles who lie about almost everything they tell. Most of them have personality disorder. They are what no one else wants. Also, it's not the way I like. Eye contact and listening to her voice, how she talks, is important when it comes to knowing that person.