Okay so this sounds kinda pathetic and depressing BUT I've never dated anyone and I don't think I will anytime soon. I'm 17 right now, and I know that dating isn't a life or death type thing or some big shot ideal thing the movies make it out to be so I've just never been focused on dating: I don't see the whole "I need a person to make me happy". However, I asked my older cousin if that made me seem strange and she told me it's no big deal, just as long as I don't wait too long because I'll miss my shot without even knowing I had one. //That// got me thinking: why don't I just go for it and date? The problem is that I realized I'm afraid to date and that's a big reason why I say no to the guys that ask me out is because I'm scared I'll scare them away somehow. Whether it's my crazy family or my problematic self (I admit i am problematic but I don't wanna drop my problems on the poor guy), I'm scared I'll accidentally distance myself from the guy and then what's the point of a relationship? I've been told I have trouble opening up and I don't deny that (I'm super shy and socially awkward). I'm also afraid that I'll annoy the guy before I even get to make a move (I also have anxiety sooo yea I'm a mess). I don't know how to get past all that and say a simple "hello" to an attractive person without looking like a dork or wimping out. I feel like as a teenager I should already know the basics about dating but I don't even know the basics about "peopling" lol.
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It's VERY natural to be scared of dating before you do it. Hell, I still get nervous to date and I'm in my mid 30s! If you scare a guy away, then good! He wasn't right for you. You don't want to keep around a guy that doesn't appreciate you for who you are. The right one will stick around despite your flaws, quirks, silliness, lack of silliness, whatever you think will scare someone away.
I personally find girls that are shy and socially awkward to be adorable. It makes me feel a little more "normal" and I can relate to them because I'm the same way.0