sorry, but it's cause you let them :-/ alota dood are not very considerate of these things, and alota the rest are but take advantage of it.. it's hard for me to give any advice since i'm one of the weird doods that doesn't have a very aggressive sex drive making companionship of much greater relative value. so i don't really do hunting for random sex, and most of my relationships have just sorta happened situationally so i don't get how hunting for random relationships works. and thus have no idea how one would tell the difference :-/ but my guess would be that the majority of random encounters would be with the goal of random sex.
well that wasn't much use, i hope someone else can be :-)
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i understand what you are saying, but i don't know why either. i just said the same to my girlfriend. she said a guy friend asked her to hang out but to go to his place to watch a movie.. hint hint..
i have always met guys who are more reserve and thats how i like it. my college boyfriend once told me i am that type that guys want to date, settle down and married to. all the guys have been with all ended up wanting serious relationship with me.
i m not sure how to respond to you, but maybe i give off that sense of confident that lose guys don't come play around with me. don't know..
don't know how you look, how your carry yourself, how you dress.. i think all these matters
Most guys I talk to and have the friends with benefits (friends with benefits) type of aspect in mind are either 1 a 'playa' and see every woman like that, or two they see a girl that literally talks and thinks like them. They speak their mind without hesitation and are not afraid of confrontation, and most girls play games and tease, choosing wording very carefully and etc. Making it difficult for the guy to understand them and etc, so the guy sees a girl like that and think they'd be more accepting of that type of thing? Not sure on your personality though, this is just from what I've seen.
To most guys, you are a casual encounter. That's life. Most of the guys you meet just won't be that into you. If you enjoy these casual encounters, that's fine assuming you are taking the usual precautions. If not, then don't. Having sex with guys you have just met won't make them stick around longer.
No one can tell you for certain, but here is an important life-lesson: If things happen once or twice in your life, it can be a coincidence. If the pattern keeps repeating, then it is something YOU do that makes that pattern come up again and again and again.
Maybe you choose the wrong guys? Maybe you become too sexual too fast? Maybe you seem weak-willed so easier to manipulate into sex? etcetc
Here's the harsh reality to it. You need to have more to offer than just sex.
Specifically, you need to have something to offer MEN that MEN WANTS.
So my advice to you is to quit all romance novels, romcom movies and asking women for advice on men for a whole year. Just cut that shit out cold turkey. If you want advice on men, just go and ask a man. Start with your father/brother/uncles/grandfather.
Could be a plethora of different things... The say you dress, speak, walk. Do you make sexually explicit jokes early on in the relationship? Do you send nudes early on? Then again if they're aren't willing to stay with you they're probably not for you or your type. Attraction and real compatibility is complicated...
Because that's just how a good bit of guys are. There could be so many reasons for them viewing you that way, could be the way you dress or could be the way you act. Why don't you try to initiate something yourself? Like a date?
Honestly, If a guy tries to flirt with you in a club, bar, restaurant etc. It's just a casual encounter (speaking from experience), to have a relationship you should already have a connection (friends or friends of friends). That's how it goes for me at least
I think maybe you should tell them when you start talking about which way you'd want this talking to go and if you are open to having casual encounters or not. That way your pool of men would become more refined with men that actually take interest in having a relationship with you.
I think it depends on the dating site. But not entirely. It is more common for people to often have casual sex and they're just hoping you'll change your mind. Just take it as they are making it easier for you to stop wasting your time with them. Don't change who you are