I need some time alone and to think about what I need differently in a new relationship. I finally broke up with my boyfriend, yesterday. We were together for about 8 months. My other relationships were for a few months. It was the longest relationship I ever had! I don't want to get back with him, ever again because we are not compatible with the important stuff :( !! I wasn't happy anymore. I don't know why he was okay with everything and said he was relieved when we broke up... but it was the most peaceful break up, ever!!
I don't know exactly how I should get back into the dating scene? I'm setting boundaries and don't want to have sex with anyone unless I get serious with them!! :) How can I let guys know I am not into sleeping around and just want a date or real relationship? How can I only have them get to second base without pressuring me, when I am uncomfortable to go further so soon? I have more respect than I used to... and I feel this past relationship changed me for the better!!! I finally equate sex with love and trust!!
I just feel so unsure of how long I should wait to find someone new, because my past relationship was long, at least for me. Luckily I will be at college for one more year and a half =) !! Plenty of guys live or go here!! HELP!!
Most Helpful Guy
There is no specific amount of time you should wait before you start dating again, it's different for EVERYONE and it's different for every relationship as well, if you didn't feel connected to him at all then you don't have as much to mourn over. "How can I let guys know I am not into sleeping around and just want a date or real relationship?" Tell them. Tell them you don't want to sleep with them unless you can tell or feel that they and you are a good match and you're both serious. "How can I only have them get to second base without pressuring me, when I am uncomfortable to go further so soon?" If they are making you uncomfortable then tell them, and if they continue to pressure after that then they don't care about how uncomfortable you are or how happy/trusting you are, just make sure you talk to them about it and have an actual discussion, not just grab there hand and push them away saying "not yet" actually talk about it with them.1
Most Helpful Girl
You should wait till you get over them. If you start dating or being in a relationship while you're still thinking about your ex, then odds are that you will probably end up using the other person as a way to get over your ex.1