I'll be 17 in a week. I haven't had much luck with girls in my area in my age group as most only want money or sex and once they have those from you they ditch, plus they only rejected and humiliated me over and over and I feel I gave them a chance but I'm better off without them cause I won't give them either of those things. So I have been trying teen dating apps, unfortunately I haven't had much luck either with that until yesterday I met a girl who it said was 18 and she's in the military, at first I wasn't too sure cause I've ran into literally 100s of catfish and it's frustrating but I decided to give it a try. We hit off nicely and she's very gorgeous, really nice, I was able to confirm she is in fact not a catfish, she's basically the complete opposite of the girls in my area in terms of personality and beauty. We went on kik to talk more and she told me her real age is 27 and she's been in the service for 8 years, before you ask yes she knows my exact age and she doesn't care. She asked me if I love her as a person and I said yes and she said it back. She's very wonderful but I'm worried how my parents might react about her being 10 years older. by the way I have some friends my age with girlfriends in that age group too. Is it alright to date someone 10 years older?
Most Helpful Girl
i say no and here's why. I'm almost 17 myself and men 10 years older than me have shown interest in the past. I 100% understand your frustration because i've gone through the same thing in my city. However, you've also gotta understand the strangeness of the situation. She is a grown woman who's been in the military for 8 years. 8 years ago you were 8/9 years old, you were in fourth grade. Honestly I think that you should wait it out and the right girl will come. Online dating is risky and a big mess and believe me when i tell you it's almost never worth it, ESPECIALLY at our age. Enjoy being a teenager. And while the attention of an older, more mature woman probably feels amazing, it also has a very creepy, pedophiley-ish vibe as well. I wouldn't consider dating a guy 2 years younger than me right now personally, so I cannot imagine why a grown woman would be wanting the attention of a teenage boy in high school. And besides, think of all the girls like me who haven't had the best of luck with dating who are waiting for a guy like you to come along and be swept off their feet. Don't count yourself out, you're almost in your prime and it will be a lot easier. Besides, when you talk to a girl my age, kids are a theoretical "maybe 5-10 years down the road" thing. When you talk to women her age, "kids" is a here and now type deal and that's scary to most guys, especially teenagers. Well I hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck.0
Most Helpful Guy
Not at the age you're at. If the genders were reversed, we'd all be unanimously condemning the 27yr old supposedly ex-military man, who conned his way in by pretending to be 18 until he wheedled his way in and gained your trust,, as a sexual predator and a pedo, ensnaring you in his web for a sinister motives. And I don't believe in double standards. That woman's a pedo, just the same as a man who'd done the same thing to a 16yr old girl would be. And it's not alright for her to date you.5
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