Here's how it works with me. I will NEVER ask for the man to pay, NEVER i have way too much pride for it to happen. But I EXPECT him to at least take the initiative to pay not because he's a man but because this is common etiquette in the Arab world. Even when Arab guys go out together as friends they like to pay for their friends because it's highly regarded and considered courtesy (even if they're not rich).
However, if he doesn't take the initiative to pay and asks me to pay my share it will show that he's very cheap and he won't be getting a 2nd date because I don't date cheap guys. By the way I would still insist to pay for myself because I'm just like that... I don't want to feel like I owe him a 2nd date.
I feel like if a guy offers to take a girl out then he should pay. Also tbt I wish women didn't walk around with such an independent outlook on life. Its good to be independent, and to have your own. However Its also okay to let a man pay for your meal on the first date. Let the man be a man.
Of course I would judge. In the era where they claim equality, they should ask guys out, initiate dates and oay their portion but it's not common. So I don't buy the "Whoever asks, pays" line. The girls time is definently not worth more than my time. So why do I have to pay for the whole date. And if I am paying, what am I paying for? Sex? Attention? I just don't get it. What's so hard paying for your portion. It's simple. Don't make it harder than it needs to be.
Paying is fine but not blindly like a dumbass. Cause that dumbass just ruins it for other dudes that go on dates. She has to be worthy and earn it. A way of earning it, news flash, is by not expecting it!
When she passes that test she'll get an all Inclusive vacation. Until then. Dont forget your visa spanky buns - which actially Happened to me on a date by the way. Girl tells me 'oopps I forgot my credit card and dont have cash'
Hahaha just take a look at all of the pink responses and now ask yourself whether it's worth it. They say ''he wouldn't get a second date with me'' I say, why even bother with the first one hahaha. What a load of nonsense and what a waste of time!