I recently broke up with my ex a few weeks ago and I thought I was over him because I moved on was taking to other guys and then whenever I see posts of my ex on fb or when I see things that remind me of him I start to miss him again. I don't want that so how can I completely get over him fast? Pls don't say block him because I can't do that I want to but I just can't if that makes sense and I know he wants nothing to do with me and he doesn't reply back to my messages and it's like he hates me for no reason. The thing is we broke up because well there's literally no reason for why we did and he even said so. Well I personally think it's because he maybe wants to talk to other girls. But how can I get over him? And how can I make him want me back or make him jealous?
Most Helpful Guy
I was just in the same situation as you. My girlfriend for a year broke up with me, and I tried to get back together but it failed miserably. My story isn't one of a kind, almost all attempts to get back together with your ex fail miserably. But don't get sad about that, move on. People just say move on like its so easy but a lot of people didn't have something like that happen to them recently. I just recently got over my crazy ex and now my life is better. I'm not gonna say get over it like it's easy. This is what I mean by it. Getting over it is gonna be hard and long but trust me, the pain will last longer if you try to get back together with him. IT won't WORK. If you accept that ur not gonna try to get backtogether with him the healing process will be 2x faster I guarantee that. The healing process isn't easy but you just need to power through it and just stop talking to him, no contact really does help during the healing process. So just enjoy your hobbies, don't think about him, and don't try to get back together. I was just at where you were, it seems like you will never get out of this slump but trust me you will, and sooner than you think. Enjoy your life, you only get one.2
Most Helpful Girl
Moving on would indicate that your life, your decisions, your actions, your thoughts do not revolve around this person, and yet, here you are. Partially I think because three weeks isn't really a long time when you talk about getting over someone, so in some ways I think you're trying too hard to force yourself to be over him right now, today, at this second, because you don't want to be in your feelings, but that's not going to help because that voice is going to keep nagging at you, telling you to check the page, Facebook stalk him, see if he's called until you decide to actually deal with your thoughts and your emotions and your loss of no longer feeling and being a part of his life.
Just like grieving a loved one, you need to experience the five stages of loss to fully get over him. Right now, you are step one, two, and three which are denial, anger, and bargaining. You have not fully accepted that things are over between you two, you're mad because he broke up with you for apparently no reason and wants not part of your life, and you're also trying to figure out ways to see if you can still make it work. After that, may come depression, thinking about all that you had and all that you've lost and then finally there will be acceptance when you know in your heart it's really over. You delete him, you realize you're awesome and can and will find someone new, and then you can and will move on with your life. You just have to go through it, and allow yourself to be able to see that he was a moment in your life, might have been some good times, but slowly and surely, there are greener pastures out there, guys who will care so much more about you and your heart, and then before you know it, he'll be just a memory.1