My boyfriend & I were talking yesterday & he told me that he wanted me to move in with me or that we can start looking for a place together but we've only been dating for like a month. I told him I would think about it. I really want to but people keep telling me it's too soon & at the same time I know it's true. So, help! >,<
Most Helpful Guy
Way too soon. Your still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship and really don't know him. Yes I know your gonna say we've talked a lot yadda yadda but you only see that good that early in a relationship. You should give it a lot more time like when your actually care for him and it's not puppy love.2
Most Helpful Girl
Relationships tend to work such that you get six months of 'romance and roses' where love is all eros and sexual and yummy, then after 6 months, (the theory goes) the bloom wears off, and you start to see the person as they are - warts and all. At which point, you either head towards agape - real deep friendship - or become disillusioned and want to withdraw.
After two months, he has only just become your boyfriend (and is quite possibly still that-guy-you're-dating). Not only do you not know each other that well yet, and might take some of the fun out of being together, but isn't it a bit clingy of him to want you to move in?
living together is a huge commitment: tenancy agreement, joint financial arrangements (rent, bills, council tax). I don't think you should rush into that when you're blinkered by being newly in love. I've just asked my boyfriend and he says: "Well, you don't know someone after two months. You think you have a good idea of what they're like but you're still at the impressing stage."
Not only that, but by moving in together you'll be fast-forwarding your relationship. At the moment you're dating, having fun, getting to know each other. When you move in together, you have to start having conversations about things like cleaning the loo. You won't have your own space any more, you'll both be there, together, every day. Do you really want to go straight to that stage after just two months?
For your own peace of mind, give it at least 6 months, maybe 7 or 8. If you want to withdraw, you can do so without rehoming. Even if you spend a lot of time at his now, having your own place to go back to when you need some space, have an argument or just fancy a change is something you'll miss when you eventually do live together, so make the most of it now.1