Basically my boyfriend (27) me (21) have been together for 3 years, lately we have been getting money together to move out. However for our whole relationship we have always fallen out etc, 1 year in I found a sexual folder belonging to him in which he said was before he got with me, I got over it and forgave him but since then have been insecure and unable to trust him. He doesn't respect me now like he used to as he believes I always bring up unnecessary arguments. When we argue he can say the meanest things like I'm a c word and why can't I be as laid back as other people etc he always apologies afterwards. The kind of topics I will argue with him over include: him looking at other girls, how he feels about me, crude jokes he can make and how I'm jealous sometimes of other women. He has told me if I stop worrying about stupid things he would respect me more and wouldn't say mean things as he is sick of arguments and that is why he doesn't care as much now. Last night he said he couldn't be with me and said he wants to fuck other women and then apologised. I just don't know what to do as I am hurt and I would just like him to listen to me and understand why I am insecure etc but he hates discussions and doesn't understand why I worry about certain things? Am I in the wrong should I be stopping worrying about these things and try and be happy or is he just not right for me? If he wants to end it should I try and show him that I can be happy with him? When we are happy it's amazing and he is lovely to me and compliments me a lot. Please help!
Most Helpful Guy
he is not right for you. you are not right for him.0
Most Helpful Girl
U need someone in ur life who understands u
.. tomorrow when ull ve major problems u won't sit down n talk rather ull just leave them alone n then when u can't take it anymore ull explode... I would advise u to leave him... it's ok to not be with the person we love... we can love again... but look at urself 10 years from now do u want to be with a guy who tells u that he wants to fuck other women n he doesn't understand u... someone who isn't there for u when u r sad... when u r happy of course everything will be good but what about those sad days... that's when he should be there the most... this apologising later thing could get worse... he literally goes n has sex with another woman n then says sorry to u... is that a medicine no! If he can't understand these small things about u then I don't think that he will understand deeper things about u... u need urself to be happy not a guy... i know it's easier said than done when it's someone we really love... he is too old to be behaving this way so sweet I suggest break up n move on... hopefully ull find someone better... it's the only way to help urself... think about this same scenario like 10 years from now when u r married n ve kids... if this is not what u want then leave him now... it will be easier on u... don't ve regrets... if u really wanna give it one more shot then sit down with him n talk about it if he won't listen now then j don't think that he will ever listen... best of luck :)0