It's the source of most of our fights, haha. I'm not anti-women by any stretch of the imagination, don't get it twisted. I firmly believe that women are fully capable of doing most jobs men can do (save for extreme physical labor, and even then, there's SOME woman out there who could pull it off), I think everyone should be paid equally and fairly, I think there needs to be a strong movement to stop violence/sexual assault against women, all that. Believe me, ladies, I'm in your corner.
BUT, some "feminists" have the game fucked up. This is supposed to be about equality. I am not your enemy. Some guys are, but I'm not, and I resent nothing more than the assumption that I'm automatically part of the problem. If we make it "men vs women", we'll never get anywhere.
My biggest problem is when she makes idiotic statements like "women can't be sexist, only men can be", and "minorities can't be racist, only white people can be." (She's Puerto Rican, btw) That's literally the dumbest shit I've ever heard, and I hate to say that about the love of my life, but I have to be honest. Basically, she believes only the gender/race with the power is guilty of that. "Ok, fine...", I tell her, "... then I don't have as much of a problem specifically with racism/sexism --by YOUR definition-- , this is just an issue of semantics. I'm worried about general "PREJUDICE." Institutionally, I get it. Changes need to be made so everyone gets a fair shake. Good, great, wonderful. But I can't lie that it really bothers me as a straight white guy that I'm automatically "the problem", and if *I* have some commentary, it's dismissed with an eye roll, as if it's audacious of me to have any opinion other than "fuck straight white guys." The obvious response from some would be "SEE? That's what WE (women/minorities/LGBTQ) have dealt with forever! How do YOU like not being taken seriously?" And I get the root of where that comes from, but you just can't say that and be expected to be taken seriously. All has to be fair across the board, even us evil hetero white men... REGARDLESS of what has happened in the past. Deal exclusively with the present.
Do straight white men need to adjust their line of thinking? Maybe some do. But if you painted any other group with one brush, there would be outrage. And it outrages me that I'm painted with the same brush as some confederate flag waving hillbilly. I'm pro-everything when it comes to race, sex, sexuality, whatever.
I guess the best...