I notice a few attractive women my boyfriend follows on IG. These are women he knows (local). Any pic they post of their face, he likes it. If it's some random pic, he doesn't. Go figure. I wouldn't have an issue if these were some unattainable people like models or something. But I feel like he's trying to get their attention. We have only been dating for 4 months so I don't want to ruin the relationship by bringing it up but it bothers me. :( is this somewhat normal for guys to do? Does it not necessarily mean anything?
I know guys like that, and they tell you that you are the only one, and yet he likes others, and plays around. . . Maybe? I would SERIOUSLY consider if you want to stay with him!! If he is looking at others, then you aren't his "One and Only' and I don't think you want to just be some 'second choice'! If I am with someone I honestly care about, and really like, I don't follow others, unless they are REAL 'friends', and I usually introduce her to them, so she knows we are JUST FRIENDS, so she feels OK with me liking them, and chatting with them, KNOWING that there is NOTHING between my 'friends' and Me! Do you TRUST him? Is the question you need to ask yourself!
You're 41 years old. I am guessing he's around your age or even older. You both are grown adults and know what you want out of life... this IG crap is petty. You know he cares for you... he's with YOU and not them. A picture like is just a like. I wish couples would stop paying so much attention to social media.. it really breaks up more relationships than it should.
there's another young girl on here with the same issue. I think social media has created some new issues...
he needs to make the switcharoo that he's dating you and can't go dwelling on other women. Or he needs to move on. He's kinda keeping his options open possibly. What he should do is get off FB and interacting with them and massage your shoulders. geez...
What you should do is stop worrying about this stupid stuff, unless you just enjoy torturing guys until they get fed up and dump you. I have many women friends and I like their pictures all the time. Grown up people have friends of both sexes.
Mmm, you could have a serious problem if he doesn't like their "random" pics. Maybe confront him about it? I don't think he's gonna stop either unless the relationship gets better or stays alive longer.
You should learn how not to be jealous. Because if you're too jealous, you will become nervous with the time, within that time he will start going out with other girls and finally leave you because of that. If you love or like a person you'll give him a freedom to do whatever he wants, except cheating.
You should tell him when u ignore these stiff thinking u just met its not the right way because u will be upset in the inside and start to hold these stuff against him and he will start to think that he has no boundaries and diesnt need to respect ur realtioship and things would go south Believe me after years of failures i realized that nobody worth upsetting u and u firgive them u put an effort on him and u should get what u deserve
He's probably just setting up some spares as insurance against being single fro long in case his current relationship with you goes south. Only prudent that one doesn't put all their eggs in 1 basket. I thought everyone did that.
I wish I Could be some Comfort in Saying that as he just Looks and 'Likes' and Doesn't Touch, that That Might Make the Hurt go Away Today, @KIb74, but I am sure that isn't the Case with your New Hunny Bunny's Face. Your Relationship is just that of 'Dating for 4 months,' which is telling me here, dear, you Both are Not Official as of yet, nor in this Exclusive Real Relationship of Being two Birds of a Feather. Sit him down and Have an Honest John Talk with him about What's going on? Ask him if he might Want to Possibly Date others because where you are sitting, it is Most... Upsetting. Good luck and Keep an Eye on your End. xx
It would be normal for guys to do this but I dont personally like this at all... My ex even after being with him for 2 fucking years his instagram would be filled with girls and not decent girls, i mean showing as much skin as they can girls and as it goes on once i saw his phone internet history and its all filled with 'white girl ass, boobs, vagina' it just made me go, maybe i shouldve stopped this at the start which i really should have.. because what ended up happening was I got cheated on and he denied it so I decided to say fuck you and left him and ended up finding out from more people that he had the audacity to bring another girl to his birthday party while he was still dating me and tell everyone that i didn't want to come to his birthday party when i wasn't even invited... (pissed chick right here)
I don't think you are being insecure. I've had an experience where the guy I was seeing was liking other girl's pics on Facebook. He would even leave comments like "So beautiful" "Such a beautiful young woman". Which seem like really respectful, nice comments to leave. But the whole time he was with me, he was cheating on me.
Now I'm not saying this guy is cheating. But honestly it does seem suspicious.
And even if there is nothing going on, I can totally see why you would be hurt.
I feel like you have a right to make it known it makes you feel uncomfortable. How would he feel if you had some super hot guys that you were following and knew and you were liking their pics?
I think he would be upset too. So I think it's only fair to talk to him about it. Try to bring it up in a way where you are not accusing him, but just letting him know that it kind of bugs you. Maybe he can quell your concerns, or maybe he will stop doing that.
I agree with the people so far that have said it is normal and does not necessarily mean anything.
I can relate to the idea that you do not like that it is especially with women that he knows. I understand the "being OK with him finding a super model hot but not with knowing he finds my best friend hot" thing. lol! That is a little intimidating to me, I must admit. However, I think that he only does it with people he knows and not some random chicks on the internet is a good thing and not a bad thing.
I think with your past experience you will need to be extra wary of seeing red flags when there may not be any. It is always good to take a step back and re-evaluate before questioning someone. This site seems like a good place to do that.
Congrats on your new relationship. I hope it continues to grow and bring you joy. Nice meeting ya'. :)
I can't believe all these guys are defending your boyfriend.
He doesn't have to like the pics. And he is not LIKING the pics to be "nice" or because he thinks it's a nice pic. That is such bullshit. You can look at someone's pic on social media and not press the like button. Personally, if i "LIKED" someone's pic, it's because I know that person. He's just trying to get their attention, trust me. I would seriously talk to him and tell him that you are uncomfortable by his behavior. If he won't stop then he is disrespectful and you should decide if you even want to stay with him.
I don't have social media so I don't know if my ex was doing that, but I would have for sure said something if I knew about it.
This used to really bother me also but what I realised is that he's with me for a reason not these girls. He just likes the photo, I know I have people who we like everything each other posts. I'd look for their interaction on Facebook more so. Instagram is more artistic whereas Facebook says a lot more about a person.
As a girl with guy friends I tend to like their pics just to be nice or a good friend or show "love". Friendships love. I make a point to acknowledge my friends post vs random ones. It means nothing, just, heyyy you look great home!
don't worry maybe he's friend with them or other? i see a lot of guys who are taken and like pictures of other girls on IG, as long as they're no nudes it's fine and if it really bothers you that much then bring it up in some funny way like ''oh someone liked a pic of another bitch again'' or something like that.
Ya it's normal. Hate to break to you but you'll never be the only women your man knows. Try not to get so worried over little things and instead just focus on how you can make things better between you guys. Remember there's a reason he chose you in the first place and not them. :) Could you answer mine too please? :)
Ask him about it. Are these girls friends of his? Ask him if there's a reason he only likes the pics of their face? I'm sure it means something. It may mean he finds them attractive & would like to date them. It could also mean they are friends of his & he's trying to be supportive. You have no way of knowing unless you ask.
If it was me personally-I'd see it as a red flag. He's not cheating on you or anything but it's making you feel insecure about it when he shouldn't be doing that. Its disrespectful because he's in a relationship now. I'm sure if you bring it up he'll think nothing of it so maybe just keep a real close eye on what he's doing on there
Kill him - I mean I'm just saying if my boyfriend did i would have threatened him with a knife
If he is following and liking some famous model's bikini pic that's creepy if he likes the pic of someone he knows it's not
Do the same with other men to see if he gets bothered by your action. if he does, then you know he's checking other girls out. If he doesn't, then he probably doesn't see nothing wrong with liking pictures from the opposite sex.
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