My boyfriend of 2 years and I were talking, and I asked him why he was with me, he said "food and sex"... we both laughed it off... but I am a bit worried that this might be the case. How do I know he is in the relationship because he loves me and not just for food and sex?
Most Helpful Guy
so you want a long term relationship right with someone who loves you?
try to get a sense that:
* he cares about you as a person... like when you are down, future career, your feelings, when you are sick does he care for you or respect you
* does he value your opinion
* are you compatible in various ways... environmental, beliefs, etc..
he may have been joking, but does he ever say he loves you or cares about you? its hard for guys to say sometimes... like it is a huge commitment for them when sex isn't. its giving their heart and future and they aren't so quick to commit... that's why the knucklehead girls are supposed to hold back the sex until they get what they way, but they seem to think differently these days. Its a negotiation...
Most Helpful Girl
While I don't know your boyfriend, I think it's more like, you asked a silly question, got a joke as a reply.
Maybe you're just being insecure, but in case you're really wondering, you better have a serious conversation with him rather than try and figure it out by yourself or ask randomly about it? Although, of course, what you feel while/ when you're together is not less important than what he may say.0