Last night I went on a first date with this guy and we were hitting it off having a laugh. It was very casual drinks and he was nice and reliable so far.
Anyway after a few few drinks he started going on about exes and said he's cheated on every girlfriend he's had. He also said he loves his own company and not having to care about anyone else. He said he can't imagine just sleeping with one person for 40 years or so once once he's married.
He said he likes me and wants to see me again. But based on this I don't know what to make of him? I dont want this kind of relationship!
Most Helpful Guy
you don't know what to make of that? Can I smack you? sorry, but its that obvious, why are you not seeing it. He must be mesmerizing...
he just said... I'm a player, I want a casual girlfriend, no plans to get married or stay that way, and I'm just going to use you to please myself for sex. no guarantees I won't go with other girls while I'm with you. He just was as non committal as a guy can be. You should have referred him to a professional counselor on the spot... pulled out your phone and got him the number of one.
He's either ok with his life or likely... a sick guy (emotionally). Its sad he gets away with it, but he must be charming and attractive.
If you can't see this clearly, I want you to see a counselor before dating anyone else. Turn off Tinder and all dating apps. But I'm glad you had the wherewithall to walk away...
Most Helpful Girl
I think the fact you have to ask means you already know your answer.
It's not wrong to think that way (I mean cheating is not right) but if he wants an open relationship or dating and nothing serious, and you do, then you two just won't work. And it's not fair on him for you to get with him and want him to change when he's already really been honest.
As for the trust thing, trust is a feeling and I feel you already know deep down you won't be able to trust him and you'll see a small sign of what could be suspicious one day, and just explode internally.2