On one hand I'd like to not be shallow and say it's pure personality. But there are certain base characteristics I find attractive. Sometimes its broad shoulders, or strong arms (though not overly muscly as extreme muscles I don't find attractive though regular body building muscles are). I don't mind heavier people, grey hair, receding hair lines, or such. But I do like dark haired guys. Sometimes I find light eyes striking as a combo. I like them to be taller than me but they don't have to be super tall. If they are really tall I don't find it as fun sexually or even cuddling wise because of how the bodies fit each other. But as long as we are about the same height or up to 5-6 inches taller that is nice. I'm used to tan or darker skin and I like a nice smile.
In the end they could physically be something I'd want to sleep with. But not all people you want to sleep with are people that make for a good relationship. So if they were cuddly, down to earth, and shared my interests but happened to be a brunette I'd be happy as to the possibility of a relationship.
So I suppose for sex alone the answer is looks if we want to be rawly honest about it. But if it's for relationship its the personality and if they are what your attracted to that's a bonus. Though on the flip side sometime what you find attractive and possibly compatible in a relationship sometimes sucks in bed.
I used to say looks all the way but then i dated bat shit cray cray , rude , self centered , selfish girl full of double standards. Despite being absolutely physically beautiful i had to get myself out of that fail relationship. Now i suppose both are equally important, i can't date a girl i do not find physically attractive also being in relationship with someone with a horrible personality is a nightmare.
Both. When you look like me and attract the attention I do, you need to learn how to relate the lower people in society.
Looks can create the initial interest, but without personality its doomed. I have briefly dated georgeous girls who are really shallow. Doesn't last long. I much prefer a girl who can hold her own side of a conversation! So - personality.
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