Please help!, I met someone at the place I worked at this Summer. He said that he was very attracted to me and wanted to get to know me better. He gave me his number and we texted back and forth, but then I noticed that sometimes he would take days to respond back. People told me that this was a red flag, but I didn't listen. He was also active on tinder, but I didn't really think anything of it either since he put on his profile that he was "not looking for a hook-up".
Then as time went on, I noticed that he never followed up on a date he himself suggested, so I instead asked him out for coffee to which he agreed. Days later, he rescheduled the date which gave me the impression that he wasn't too interested in me. I then proceeded to ask him how he felt about me and if he was interested in me.
He said "I think you're very good looking and I'm definitely interested. I would like to get to know you better, but it's going to be very hard due to work right now. As you can see to even go out for coffee." I replied back by saying "Is it possible for us to get to know each other even though you're busy?" He responded by saying "Unfortunately because of work and the bs happening at work, I don't think that's a possibility for me right now". I said "ok, that's all I need to know. Good luck." and he said "same to you."
I am really depressed and heart-broken because I developed feeling for this guy and it seems like he had ulterior motives all along... Every time I meet someone I like, in the end, they're just looking for sex or just stop talking me. I don't know what else to do because the guys I'm into are either taken or just not interested...
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not trying to be a dick about it... but suck it up and learn from your mistakes.
This guy was definitely looking for a relationship. But from the sounds of it he was half-heartedly interested in you.
"He was also active on tinder, but I didn't really think anything of it either since he put on his profile that he was "not looking for a hook-up"."
-He was talking to another girl who he was more interested in.
"He said "I think you're very good looking and I'm definitely interested. I would like to get to know you better, but it's going to be very hard due to work right now. As you can see to even go out for coffee." "
-He just rejected you. Permanently. However he was trying to not hurt your feelings.
The story that you just described has happened to me (and most guys) 100+ times. The best advice I can give you is to recognize the signs of disinterest early on before committing emotions to anyone. Unfortunately I can't give you any advice about your current feelings other than just wait it out.
Again... I'm sorry if I came across as a dick.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I have had the same problem! Just know that there is a guy out there for you. And that you don't need a guy to make you happy. I mean sure if your like me then you really want a guy just to do life with. I've learned to make myself happy with whatever life throws at me. I'm not always happy with it but whatever. But rejection from a guy is not easy it makes you feel like crap you go from being on cloud 9 to the most depressed person you think. But to deal with it I just kind of move on. And know that whatever reason it is they stopped talking to me that it just wasn't meant to be. Sounds stupid I know but I try to just not let my happiness depend on a guy. Although it could be better to have a guy sometimes I know. Hope I helped a little bit.1