My views of myself dating an older guy would be... fine. I'm 24, almost done school. Mentally, I feel zero interest in dating/fucking around for shits and giggles. I'm only interested in the stability and such that a LTR would offer so, assuming that this guy is not >10 or so years older than me, it'd be fine.
A guy in his early 20's with a 17 year old though? Not so sure. If I look back at myself as a 17 year old and compare my mindset and sense of self then to what I feel now, or in the past few years- huge difference. There's a huge amount of maturation, both mental, sexual, etc. that goes on in the few years that separate the couple. It might work, but both would have to always keep these differences in mind and behave accordingly.
I understand what you feel, Sir... and it sucks. I was 18 with a 22 year old... he saw it as a fling. I didn't necessarily get attached... but all he did was kiss and finger me. I think I only gave him a handjob!! It only lasted a month and a half :( ... my advice is don't let her get too attached to you. Do what feels right... but don't make her think you want something serious... IF you don't :)
I have an older boyfriend and I hope we both just feel lucky to have each other. Maybe I shouldn't talk but I think a girl in HS and a guy in his 20's is just wrong though and I have my views on guys who do that.
Well I guess this kinda falls with where my boyfriend and I are... I'm 17 and he is 20. He is a Junior in College and I am a Junior in High School. With him, there is no pressure. He sees me. Yeah he works a lot and has classes that just started but he makes time for me. I know it is hard for us to see each other because of my parents but we make it work and my parents really don't pry into my relationships. (I'm the only child they don't do that with) Yeah there is a gap in our age but we aren't that far apart. We see things differently at times but that is normal for people. Being a girls first love isn't always the best thing. My Boyfriend isn't my first love. I loved one other guy besides him and that was my first boyfriend that I started dating at 14... We were together til I was 16 1/2. Then he cheated on me. Not all relationships are perfect. Heck no relationship is perfect.
Good luck on going through all that hell of explaining to the girl's parents your purpose of dating her, following their curfew, the father wanting to rip you to pieces if you break her heart or you never end up being engaged to her, etc.
Are you sure you want to go through all that instead of dating a college girl in her 20's?
Speaking as someone who is currently 17, wait to date someone until they are 18. I think I am a mature person as far as socially and mentally, but in sexual situations, I already know I'm not. Just wait, don't be that guy.
1 legal age is 18 consenting age is 16 which means she's old enough to say yes to sex to anyone 16-18 anyone older it has to be approved by parents and before 18 parents have the right to veto anyone she dates
So i hope u have mommy and daddys stamp of approve for dating or dating and sex
Girls seem to mature a lot faster than guys at least mentally and are tougher when it comes to relationships and heartbreak. The age difference in my view is actually very small and really even ten years is not such a big difference.
I'd say it will be hard. Though some girls seem "mature" they still dont know what they want from their lives. I only see this as a heartbreak for you once she changes her mind and decides she's too young to get serious.