I turned him down although I'm starting to crush on him. I have many reasons for not being able to go, I told him I would've loved to go with him but I can't now ( I really can't). I'm not sure if he believed me but he seemed a bit disappointed.
Whatever the reason may be, I take a 'NO' as a 'NO' and move on. No man with even an ounce of self-respect will persist with a girl who turned him down. She might have her reasons, but I can't pin my hopes on her changing her mind later. I prefer to utilise my time and energy to seek someone else.
But if she changes her mind and approached me herself later on, and if I'm still single, then I would have no qualms about dating her.
The thing is , you should have made him a counteroffer , if you can't make it on that date , offer another time to show you're actually interested instead of letting him down softly. It works both ways. For love , for business , it's all the same rules.
I will give up interest until she herself expresses interest me in me. I have learned long ago that when a female is not interested, she is not interested and trying to pursue her longer will just be an exercise in futility. Besides, it is a waste of resources because you could easily ask out a lot more girls until one says yes. So until she says otherwise, I will generally lose interest after the first rejection.
well if she turns me down, i will certainly not try again. so either she´s the one asking or she fucked up for good. of course i don´t loose interest like that but i won´t be that pathetic guy who will keep asking a girl out that already said no...
We don't lose interest right away but those of us who have some experience won't believe your excuse. Next time give him a counter offer: a specific day and time when you will have time, that tells him you're actually interested.
How I do it: Phone call? Declined 2 days later next try 2 weeks later next try fuk dat. Start convo over whatsapp and see how it flows, if the girl bores me and doesn't want to keep a convo I drop it off. In your case I would give you 1 last call and already have low expectations since I don't even know the reason why not, just shrugged it of with an OK.
If she gives an excuse and offers no other time or date in the future that would work for her I assume she's just letting me off easy. However I will allow her to fool me once. When she lies to me twice, I'm done.