So technically we're not together (as in officially dating), but we've been "exclusive" for around 10 months and have dated in the past but we're long distance. Anyway, we were talking on the phone and he called this girl he hangs out a pretty decent amount with attractive... He was with her before he called me. He knew it would bother me because he was like "don't take this the wrong way but I'm really attracted to (her name)". I know it's normal to obviously be attracted to other people but the fact that he said it to me made me feel kind of uncomfortable because it's not the first time he's mentioned it. I've seen a picture of her and she's pretty, but not a knockout or anything. I am 99.999% sure he would never cheat on me but it makes me uncomfortable when he talks about her. Should I be worried? I'm kind of mad even though I know I probably shouldn't be.
... He hangs out with a pretty decent amount with attractive. From where I am Sitting and as Wise as I am, especially in LDR, it woul dseem he Might just be Giving you Helpul Hints that even though you Say 'We've been '"exclusive"' I am Seeing a Fifth Wheel Deal here, dear. I don't Trust the Situation 100 %, which Seems this is not a Stone's Throw from Where you are or you Would be at this Other end more, 'Hanging out' and Not... This Girl. Be Concerned, yes, I would say. Keep an Eye out and Just remember as well, that Open Lines of Convo is More Important than any Pretty face and One that is 'Not a knockout or anything.' I am not as Convinced as you though of hBm being '99,999% of just What is Going on with her, especially Bringing up her Name a lot. I am just 'Worried' you May be Missing something. Not being 'Official,' is Something that He has not come to Terms with Wanting to be as of yet. Good luck. xx
I wouldn't be worried about him calling her attractive... it does seem to me that after 10 months you should "officially be together" or look hard in the mirror and ask if he is someone you should be with.
Well i have a girl and i respect her very much i wouldn't tell such a thing to her because i know it will annoy her maybe your boy is trying to get more attention from you or he was just playing with you. You can
Honestly, don't be worried. Me and my guy openly talk about other people we find attractive. It's normal and he doesn't have to worry because I'm secure, he's secure, and we're in a loyal relationship.
He knew it would bother you but chose to say it anyway. So he wanted to bother you, that's a red flag. Of course you'll find other people attractive, that's a given, but if you're dedicated to your SO, and have legit feelings for them, a) you'll notice they're attractive without thinking much of it and b) you won't try to hurt/bother your SO especially by talking about how attractive your friend is multiple times.
And the fact you've been "exclusive" for just shy of a year without taking it to the next level is an even bigger red flag.
What the hell does " technically we're not together (as in officially dating), but we've been "exclusive" for around 10 months" even mean? Sorry but that's pretty much a BS statement. If you aren't officially dating, then he might be letting you know he's interested in going after her.
Your dating him! He's your man! He loves you! Even though he said he found some other lady attractive doesn't mean he's going to take off. Get what am saying? She could just be a friend. But if this happens often and he doesn't talk to you anymore, keeps going to her house. That kind of thing I would be worried. But it seems that this girl is just a friend who he thinks is pretty. He could have said that she was a attractive to make you "jealous." But since the two of you are dating. "He should only have eyes for you and you alone!"
If it's looks because he thinks she's attractive and is really attracted to her then that is wrong and not a reason to think she's attractive and be really attracted to her and you shouldn't and don't have to have looks to be attractive or for someone to be really attractive to you.
I would be mad too, that is very disrespectful and insensitive.
I don't like being 2nd best with anyone, especially when it's my own boyfriend. If my boyfriend said something like this, I would probably dump him.
That said, I am very sensitive and easily triggered.
there is a difference between finding someone attractive or good looking ans being attracted to someone... he felt that he needed to give u a heads up about her, so I would tried with caution. red flag
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