Hello, I recently started seeing a guy and I really like him. I think he really likes me too. He stays in touch with me, I always get a good morning, good night and lots of updates and questions as to what I am doing during the day. I like that. When we hang out together, he does ask me questions, but sometimes, I feel like he has a hard time paying attention to my answers and wants to jump in with more about himself. I'd give him a.5 out of 1 on seeming interested in what's going on with me, but I can see that he is putting in effort - he just seems a bit nervous and I think he wants me to like him. to the point, Should his seeming inability to pay attention to what's going on with me big a huge red flag, or should I give this some more time as things progress?
Also, I don't want to start sleeping together unless I know there is going to be exclusivity, it dosn't have to be a serious relationship, but I'd rather we were only sleeping with each other and not with other people as well.
- What is a good way to say this without coming across to abrasive or serious?
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This is a good question. I am not sure you will like the answer. I don't think you an really get a person like that to change. Some people are just naturally more wrapped up in their own world and would rather be heard than do the listening. Personally, that's a deal-breaker to me, as i am not interested in being in a relationship with someone who naturally isn't a great listener and doesn't return the favor. And on top of that the exclusivity problem, its a no-go for me.
You're quite attractive and sound intelligent from your post. I think you can do and deserve better. Just my thoughts...0