This guy I work with (we'll call him M) started talking to me the other day, he's really shy. I think M likes me. He's heard about all the other creepy older customers and coworkers that hit on me at work and finds it to be wrong, so I really don't think he means to do me any harm. And I wouldn't intend to have any illegal sex with him, and if I believed that was all he wanted from me, I wouldn't give him the time of day but I think he just genuinely wants a relationship with me that isn't all about seeing how far he can get with me. I'd know, I've dealt with my fair share of creeps in just the past few days. My dad works with us as well and really likes M. My dad even told me recently when I got rejected that he thought M would date me, (this was prior to me even meeting M). I almost wonder if my dad encouraged M to start talking to me. So normally I might think the whole 15-19 age difference is wrong but then again he's a really nice guy and it's only 4 years and it seems as though my dad has given his stamp of approval... I guess I just want more opinions before I attempt to pursue cause the age difference has been weighing on my mind a bit. He'll be 20 in November and I'll be 16 in December. Should I just forget it now because of the age gap or should I go for it? If it works out, it will be the first relationship I'll ever be in.
Ayyy Do anything you want cutie Age doesn't matter tbh If you both won't be sexual then it's better or he might get in trouble but if he's craving sex then stay away if you want something serious So just think about every circumstances and then take a decision so you won't regret 😂 LOL
As long as it's legal I wouldn't worry about others opinions. However in your situation it'd be best to wait until you're 16. Because depending on your state, you two being together could get him into trouble (especially if your parents don't approve). In my state the age of consent is 16. But other states vary. Just be very careful.
It's only 4 years, but you're still a minor which would put him in a very dangerous position, he could be charged serious crimes, you know. Wait until you're 18 to date older guys, from that moment one age differences matter shit. But right now, he'll be in a very bad spot for it.
I don't know if you're dad being ok with it, would grant the other guy some sort of immunity at 16 years old, which is generally the age of consent. But I doubt it, you would probably have to check the laws with your dad.
At age 20, though, and I don't mean any wrong with this, any healthy guy is pretty much interested in sex doesn't matter if he doesn't have bad intentions with you. So think about that...
well, considering that you're a minor in the eyes of the law, probably best that you steer clear- for obvious reasons (like rape charges, if he does anything with you that's not platonic).
most guys err on the side of caution when approaching women at work, especially since two little words ("sexual harassment") would be all it takes to wreck his professional reputation forever. can't say i blame him.