My recent girlfriend of a month told me yesterday that on Tuesday night she went to a house bday party and after it was over she went to a strip club with these 3 guys she met there and didn't know, and then after they all hung out in some vacant building that was under construction, she said nothing happened and that she was one of the boys, I'm kinda turned off, do I have a right to be? What do I say about it without sounding jealous?
It's understandable to be jealous, hanging out with 3 other men raises suspension and worry but sense nothing happened don't be to upset. Just tell her your not comfortable hanging out with other guys.. especially alone. Look at this way at least she was honest and told you.. but yes I would be a little irked by it but try not to loose your cool because you don't want to make it seem like you don't trust her.
Well, this situation has nothing to do with weather you trust that she didn't cheat on you. It's trusting her to do the right thing for her safety. Even if she got along with those men, you said she only met them that day and going to a vacant building sounds just as bad as going to a stranger's apartment. She totally put herself in a situation where if those men were to harm her she'd be out numbered. I'd be just as upset if my husband made choices that could have put him in a dangerous situation. It's only natural when you care about someone.
I know she's got her own right to make her own decisions on who she trusts but I think she made a risky choice. If this was one of my girl friends I'd approach her in a concerned way when talking with her so she won't take it offensive and make sure she understands that you're worried about her safty and not mad about her going out to have fun. Unless of course you don't agree on the strip club thing too. I personally don't mind those stuff.