This may be an over-asked question, but why do some men seek virgins? I had 0 sexual activity before meeting my SO, and because of that he seemed very happy. I was surprised actually, because I thought a woman with no skill would be a turn off.
I was in a weird relationship before this one, and he got creepy about it. Treated me like a trophie, and seemed to be the only reason he wanted me. I left before anything happened, and it was a scary breakup.
Other than for religious reasons virginity is in fact very important. I have explained about this before as an opinion on two different MyTakes. But here is the reasons why it is very important:
1: Virginity is YOU. It is a part of YOU. It is not just physical, it is everything of your entire being. What makes you up emotionally, sexually, mentally, psychologically and spiritually as well. It is very important. Because now your giving away part of yourself to a person that may or may not deserve you. 2: You will never compare another sex partner to your spouse or a new sex partner. Men and women can sense when there is 'another', but it isn't always physically. The bond is tougher to break with two people who already saved themselves for each other, especially in marriage. Outside of it, becomes very risky. Because now if things don't work out or you never marry them, your bound to head to divorce.
Besides the STD/STI risk and pregnancy that is not wanted, there is a lot to consider based on the sexual choices and selections one make now. As it will effect your overall future. Wither or not your going to get married or have children, let alone maintain and stay in a marriage without divorce. But usually these days, if the guys isn't focused on the benefits of a nonsexual relationship, its more so for him to be her first so she'll always remember him [which is not good if you get married], and the fact that your tighter, so it will make the sexual encounter more pleasurable more so for him than you. But if the virgin likes the experience, he will stick around just for that.
In the end make sure that you make your intentions very clear. Wither your looking for a sexual relationship or not. It is extremely important.
Realistically in my opinion, it depends on the person in question as to why a girl being a virgin may matter to him or not. Some males prefer being with a virgin, because they care about the number of people a girl's been sexually active with and if a girl has been with a lot of people it is a turn off for him. On the other side if a girl is a virgin or hasn't been with a lot of people then it is just the opposite and it is a major turn on. Again, it just depends on the person and their philosophy when it comes to relationships and what they are and are NOT attracted to.
You have those males who don't care either way also. You could be a virgin or not and the person wouldn't care either way and would still go out with you and want a serious relationship. You have those guys who like a more confident, assertive girl who's experienced and slept around. Then you also have those males who are less attracted to such confidence and they find it intimidating and therefore they are turned off and seek a different kind of girl for their individual personality.
In your case, you've may have found a guy who was insecure about who he was, and just saw you as the trophy girl he could show off, and thankfully you ended it before it went to far, but now you're with someone who is very happy with the way you are and is turned on by it and doesn't shy about from you. Cherish what you've found and don't worry about your past experiences. Just follow you're heart and do what makes you happy the most. In the end that's all that matters; your own individual happiness.
Sleeping with a virgin is a head trip for the man. "I'm the first one she's had in there" kind of thing. Some men think you will be extra tight because you've never had anything in there. Its a falacy. Women don't get bigger and bigger just because they have sex unless they are with a guy that's really huge a lot. If the guy is a virgin as well, then it's different. All you have to do is see what he likes and let him know what you want to try since you don't know what you like yet. Be open to try different things. You have to had thoughts about different parts of sex and what you think you will enjoy. You probally masturbate and that lets you know some things you'll enjoy. Most important, you make sure that things go the way you want. Not all men know what it's like for a woman her first time. Make him take his time with foreplay to really get you in the mood and tell him to go slow, especially if you haven't had a vibrator or dildo in you. Men fantisize about a virgin because they are in control. A man they really cares about you will take all the time needed to make you happy. He will not put his pleasure ahead of yours. If a guy won't allow these things, he's not worth giving yourself to. Make sure you don't do something you will regret later. Your first time is way too important to waste on a man that doesn't do the above. You have the rest of your life to have sex. You are quite young. Take care of you first and most of all, don't be in a hurry. I hope your first time is as special as it should be!
These days, sex is easy. To find a virgin is comparitively rare. That makes her very special. It definitely is not a turn off for the right guy. In fact, it can be a huge turn on. Makes that guy feel very special to have a very special lady. Just how I think about it. Others may disagree. Each to his/her own.
Men don't really like the thought of other men fucking their girlfriend. Most of us don't really care if you're a virgin or not, but better are virgin than one who has been around the block.
Women don't really understand this cause they don't see it this way. They see non-virgin men as... men. They see it as status, as power. That's why you don't see women (except for religious ones) wanting virgin men, cause they consider them to still be boys.
1. Virgins are 100% Std free 2. The "game" hasn't been played on them. You know when a guy only whats sex and as soon as he gets it he dump her. Leaving the girl messed up. 3. There is no competition in their minds to be compared to. You are there best lover period. 4. Virginity can only be taken once.
Your partner was happy because virgin means nobody was inside you and he will be the only one.(or at least the first one). I would be excited too if my boyfriend was virgin and I'll be his first. lol Virginity is something a big deal especially to girls and for him to have your virginity, of course that excites him.