Long story short, a guy initially showed interest in me, said he wanted to get to know me, and we texted back and forth for a while. He eventually began to lose interest in me since he took days to respond back to me. I noticed this and asked him if he was interested in me as in considering being in a relationship with me and he later replied saying that he was "too busy" to get to know me. I eventually asked him if he still wanted to be friends and he said "of course". I even asked him if I could add him on Facebook and he did. He texted me back on forth on that very same day he added me. 24 hours later, I check my Facebook page and noticed that he deleted me and blocked my number. I am so depressed right now because I feel as if I did everything right and every time I meet someone I like, I always end up getting hurt one way or another. I keep wondering why he changed his mind so quickly about me. I don't even have the desire to live right now. How can I regain my strength and ego back?
First off, with you the guy was a player or some other form of low grade scum, there's nothing wrong with you if that's the whole story.
Well, young and inexperienced me has had to deal with two rejections. The second was boring and a last ditch attempt to date a girl I'd otherwise never see again. The first was terrible. It took a month to get over and I was doing it wrong the whole time, but the girl was an awesome person and supported me the whole time as a friend. I was thinking about and messaging her all day when in fact the best cure is to distract yourself, with other people or with something else.
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This happened to me, well the circumstances are different. However, my best advice would be for you to distract yourself/ take time to move on. Don't let the actions of some idiot get you down. It was his loss, and not yours. Remember your worth, and that there are many guys out there who would not do you like he has. Life is too short to sit, sulk, and suffer over something that probably wasn't meant for you anyway. Don't even allow yourself to question your desire to live either. I know how you feel, and I've been there. You have so much to live for. One day you will find someone, and you won't even remember this guy. Your heart is broken right now, but things Will get better, and life goes on.
So you have been toyed with and rejected by someone whose behaviour appears to be irrational. From a male perspective, welcome to our world. :-) The most constructive suggestion that I can make is to not think of yourself as a special snowflake. Everyone is rejected in various ways in various contexts. Take a teaspoon of cement and harden up. :-) Move on and be thankful that you did not waste any more time on him.
This is how it goes. You need to accept that people are allowed to not like you, just as you are allowed to not like someone who shows and interest in you. It seems harsh, but it's better to reject them quickly as opposed to leading them on and building false hope.
Yeah there was a girl who did this to me a couple years ago. I'm still to this day blocked. And am unclear to some degree the reasoning as it seems extreme. Pretty much forgotten it and moved on but I don't think I can forgive her. Don't have any warm spots in my heart for these types of people.
yes, happened to me several times (except beeing deleted/blocked). I than just thought fuck you and concentrated on things not related to them or dating. That's also why I lost interest in dating except when I think she really means it and I stopped asking girls for a date and why I stopped trusting other people.
This happens to guys constantly, we just try the next girl
Girl, you'll be fine in a while. The reason why he did it honestly doesn't matter. He rejected your friendship because he couldn't handle someone who is as giving and cool as you where you are interested him and want convo. He's probably used to shitty girls. Honestly F*** him. Another hotter, more interesting guy will be all over you.
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There is no reason to feel sad over something you never had. He was a loser just wasting your time and was probably very bored and you were the temporary solution. Pick yourself up, and get your shit together -move on.
I went for something similar, it hurts really bad and sometimes i feel that i sohould have seen it coming, over the way he behabed (like leaving me on seen for really long time). But i came to the conclusion that i give my best, i did everything whit love and not bad intentions, and that people in our lives come by for a reason and stay for as long as they should, no more. Dont linger to someone who is not whort of you, you have nothing to regret and is pobably for a better door opening in the future. Good luck, it takes time but you'll get there. :)
First of all I'm really sorry this happened to you. I had it done to me twice back to back and the worst thing ever. I think it just takes time to get over something like this. I remember when it happened to me I still didn't feel right until the guy apologised... 6 months too late. You will be fine and you will get over this. Also, if he wanted to get to know you then nothing would be 'too busy' for him. You'll be okay :)
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