I am sure y all missed my questions haha Anw... so look I have some minor confidence issues especially since I don t have much experience at all so I don t know what the guy expects in this and so on. But I noticed this doesn t bother the guys I am with, I feel they get more protective instead of being turned off. So lack of confidence doesn t always equate as a turn off? Or those dudes are just being nice and patient with me?
it's because of the way society teaches us how genders should work
guys need to be strong, have confidence, protect, don't show emotions, etc that's why many girls are turned off by a lack of confidence with guys.
girls are considered weak in some aspects and need to be protected, they can show emotions, etc. Strong confidence is just nothing that is generally expected from girls, at least not from most guys. A lack of confidence also gives the interested guy the possibility to help her and maybe even get close to her like that. So it's not really as much of a turn off for us, but it depends of course on a couple of things.
Nope lack of confident isn't always a turn off. We're all different individuals and because of that we all have different preference. Its like some guys don't want to sleep with a virgin its not always because its a turn off but it might just the fact that they don't want to be the reason someone is in that much pain (AKA losing it) or they don't want to do most of the work since she'd be pretty clueless. Same thing with confidence.. some don't find it a then off but rather see it as you being able to trust them enough to let them in. Tho some might not want someone less confident because they are pretty much the same too (two wrongs don't make a right) No offence. So yeah when they get more protective they are actually being genuine. Hopefully i helped... Good luck.
A lack of confidence does not always turn a guy off. It's way to easy to take advantage of some insecure girls because she may go off what the guy says just because it's what she wants to hear, not what he does. It makes her feel more secure. If your guys don't have a problem with it, you are over thinking it. Over thinking usually leads to negative thoughts.
Lack of confidence is only one trait. There are so many others that are more important. And you have so many traits that are really outstanding! Any lack of confidence you have is quickly buried and lost. Do not worry at all about it.
Nah your a female lack of confidence doesn't really have any negative affect, in fact a lot of guys like a girl to be a little shy/bashful and not having 100% confidence isn't an issue and it's not a turn off.
As for the protective thing men are just hardwired to be that way, especially around weaker people or people perceived to be weaker/shy or that they're with, it's an instinct.
Though a confident woman is better, not being 100% confidence isn't an issue for most guys, and some will even become more protective of you. As long as you don't become super insecure all the time, you'll be good.
Oh, but be aware of the guys that are just being patient to get something out of you.
those dudes are just being nice and patient with you
It can be kinda cute at the beginning (expecting it to improve a lot faster), but it's the kind of thing where I know she's behaving a certain way, but is capable of much more. If I would genuinely feel that that was her max performance, then it would be a turn of.
Always remember that you are simply better then everyone else around you. They only exist in your mind. YOU are the center of the universe. However they react is however your mind made them react. You are controlling everything, including me while I'm typing this. Don't you forget it.
So if you're attracted to them physically, lack of confidence won't be a huge issue. It can even be cute.
It does become an issue when you've been with someone for a while and that shitty confidence just starts becoming overwhelming OR you just met a guy that is looking for his equal, so someone that is complete inside and out and wants the same in his partner
In almost every other situation if you are physically attractive to him, he won't care that much
No we don't care if you need to build up confidence. We are protective of people that we care about naturally. You should be confident all the time you have a beautiful face which is what guys notice first.