A guy 'just going for me' like in romance movies/novels is not a guy who is assertive or confident. Guys who do things like Noah The Notebook are completely whipped and, though it was a nice gesture in the movie, I'd never want a guy who is so readily willing to put aside his life plans just because of me.
Uh I would never suggest you act like a romance hero that's just fantasy but we have been over this before. You got to talk to her IN PERSON AND TELL HER HOW YOU FREAKING FEEL! She's obviously either dense as a brick or is waiting on you to tell her how you feel or whatever.