My boyfriend won't sleep with me and I don't understand why. We have been together 3 years now and live together. We have slept together twice in the past year and I've even bought new sexy underwear to which he rolled over said to stop being stupid. He then flirts infront of me with other girls and I've found out he has been having a secret friendship with one of my friends for the past few months. Initiating sex with her apprantly.- he denied this. What should I do? Is he cheating?
Obviously he isn't attracted anymore. His feelings have also changed and I highly suspect he is cheating. His flirting and secret affair is very insensitive, disrespectful and all I need to know that this relationship is over. If he does all these things why are you still with him? It won't change so you have a decision
From what you wrote it's obvious he is cheating and to be blunt with you I think he doesn't want you sexually again but doesn't know how to say it to you because you guys are living together. My advice to you is for both of you to sit down and talk what the problem is. The problem could be such as maybe you don't dress like you use to, maybe your sex life is based mainly on missionary style I. e it lacks some kinky fuckery and lastly maybe he's tired of the relationship and doesn't want to be the one to initiate the breakup so he is trying to push you to brim so that the fault we be on you. It's just my thoughts so if you still love then try everything you can to make your relationship last, Goodluck.
2 times in a year? Yes he is getting some somewhere else. He is finds it appropriate to degrade you when you dry to dress sexy and flirting in front of you. Have some self respect for yourself and leave him.
Even if he's not physically cheating YET, he has emotionally checked out of this relationship. It's not IMPOSSIBLE to fix, but he has to want to fix it - and if he's unwilling to do anything about it, then you need to dump him and move on.
It sounds like he's cheating even if not to the extent if what you've heard or suspect. While it's wrong of him to do this, you might need to look at yourself- are you physically attractive to him? This can be a deal breaker for most men and I feel that many women are treated unfaithfully because they don't make a real effort with their appearance. If there's anything left to save, make sure you keep his head turned in YOUR direction 👍